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My husband recently passed away, suddenly and unexpectedly, and besides being in mourning, I'm left with several disadvantages, including no transportation. Family members were very insensitive at a recent family gathering, not wanting to recognize that I was in mourning, not quite up to partying and also disadvantaged in some ways. One in particular went out of her way to be especially hard nosed, insensitive and nasty, expecting me to do things my situation didn't allow me to do and going out of her way to make me miserable just to be mean. I felt that was uncalled for and unkind, but my adult son is trying to convince me I was being selfish by only being able to do what I could do and by expecting to be treated nicely. He thinks I should be turning myself inside out to please others, have no needs, not think of me and not expect others to think of me. He thinks I should not be offended by what my sister did, when she still isn't willing to own up to the fact that she was wrong. And I have to think of me, especially at a time like this, and I feel my son should be supportive of me, not telling me to accept that terrible treatment. I'm all alone, and if I don't take care of me, no one will.
Apparently my family scared him and made him think I'm not gonna get over this if I think of myself, but I know what I need, and I need to be pampered right now. I don't need to turn into Edith Bunker. I need to heal, and I need to be treated very well, and it does help me when I treat myself well. Any suggestions how to get my son off this kick???
Apparently my family scared him and made him think I'm not gonna get over this if I think of myself, but I know what I need, and I need to be pampered right now. I don't need to turn into Edith Bunker. I need to heal, and I need to be treated very well, and it does help me when I treat myself well. Any suggestions how to get my son off this kick???
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This was her mother's sister she was lying about to me, the daughter. I told her the conversation was over and hung up. She's only called once since then leaving a message but no apology on my answerphone.
It's been a month now, and I think an apology is in order. The hurt from this - not to mention the inaccuracy - was unconscionable. How do we recoup from these during a time of grief?