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The loss of anyone or anything can affect people greatly and everyone copes in different ways. I need help in coping. I know there are loads of different ways to cope e.g faith, therapy etc. Well I am not religious and I dont believe in life after death. I am now finding it increasingly difficult to shut out the pain and loss of my grandad. Everytime I think of him I cry. Everytime anyone mentions him, I want to cry, but I cant cry infront of them, I dont want people to see me cry about him. When I go to see my grandma its as if my grandad was never there. There is nothing left of him here any more and my memories are fading. I wish I could believe in life after death, even if it was to talk to him one last time. But theres nothing there and I need something xxxx
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believe it or not crying is also a way of coping. maybe journaling your feelings will help you. You could try making a scrap book of your grandfather with pic's that you may have and write the memories you have down. I am afraid I will have no memories of my parents as I get older. my thoughts are with you
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I know how you are feeling and i am just one person in a large number of people who have been through the same thing. I remember when a female cousin of mine died, she was only 22 and we used to do everything together. I found it really hard to go and see my aunt and uncle after her death as they would just hold me tight and tell me how much my cousin loved seeing me and spending time with me. I think in a way, I helped them with their healing because i was a reminder of her. I did'nt find this helped me though, i felt like i had to be strong for them and did not allow myself to cry in front of them. My cousin loved doing tapestry and so I bought one to do (I had never done one before) and everytime i would sit and work on my tapestry, it was like she was there with me. Perhaps try and do somthing that your grandad used to love doing. I know it probably sounds weird, but imagine him there doing it with you. Hope this helps a little. BIG HUGS to you
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Can you talk to your grandmother or anyone else about him? I really feel better when I talk about Mike to someone and tell them little things he said or did. I think the coping is just going through the missing him and crying about him. You just have to feel the pain and go through it. Everybody deals in their own way.

Sue
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I keep what I call a DADDY JOURNAL, I write to my daddy everyday. When I do, I feel like he is sitting right beside me, this has helped me more than you can imagine.
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