Hi tammy
I feel just the same...my mum passed away a year ago on October 13th..wish i knew the answers....please know others here understand...
Love
'sensitivesoul'
xxx

I DO NOT BELIEVE YOU ARE STUCK ANYWHERE. THERE IS NO TIME LIMIT FOR GRIEVING. IT WILL TAKE AS LONG AS IT TAKES TO MOVE ON TO THE NEXT STAGE OF GRIEF!! DONT RUSH IT, YOU NEED TO TAKE YOUR TIME AND LET YOUR HEART FEEL ALL IT NEEDS TO FEEL.

a retired funeral director told my mom when my dad passed away 5 1/2 years ago, that everyone grieves differently. to do it in her own way and time and not to let anyone tell her that she was doing it wrong.

I am still stuck on empty and disbelief. It will be a year on Dec 10th since my Mom died and I still expect to call her and she will answer the phone. People are still telling me I need to get over it and move on; and most of those folks still have their mothers. Its hard; oh so hard ... there is just no life without her.

Take your time; find your path. Its the only advice I can give since I don't have a resolution either.

There is no book that can give you an answer to why it hurts so much or where you fit in the world without your mother. You have a wounded soul and there are steps you will walk to heal yourself. Your strength is obvious. We are all here for the same reason, there is no instruction manual just a shared sea of loss. It makes it somehow better, easier to breathe through the hardest parts. Don't ask why, the mechanics of it elude me. My heart is with you.

I know how you feel, I am still in denial of my grandma and just don't want to beleive it, Im afraid it will hurt worse to beleive it. I think too that there is no time frame for greiving and people who say you should be over it they just don't understand what your going through.

The steps of grief are a myth. There is a difference between grief and mourning. Grief is what you feel inside. Mourning is the physical effects like crying, sadness, depression, feeling of loss or heavy heart. Everyone grieves/mourns in their own way and in their own time. Crying is a great release and don't let anyone tell you that this is wrong or you should be stronger, get on with your life or any of that dribble. They are your feelings and you go with them. Good luck and God bless.

I, too, lost my Mom a year ago, but I've done alot of recovery work in my grieving process. I go to counseling every other week, my pastor (for counseling) every other week, and a grief recovery group 2 x per month.
All of which work together to help me deal with my "feelings inside of me" which needed to come out.
I still cry, but I'm doing much better.
The devastation will lift as you journal out your feelings and allow yourself to express those feelings to "safe people" around you.
Holding those feelings in will make you physically ill and won't allow you to get past this issue.
My Mom was precious to me, also, but I know she'd like me to "have a life" and move on when I can.
You will know when you can.
Everyone of us are different in the grieving process.
Some grieve more slowly than others.
If you want to talk, Please feel free to write to me.
I'm here.
Love,
Betty

it is not uncommen to be stuck in a certain stage. it is also not uncommen to be all over the map. just go with your feelings @ the moment. Wishing you well.