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deleted_user 04/07/2008

Hi, I have introduced myself here before I think, I honestly don'remember, I am having an awful time spelling because my eyes are blurred from crying so much, but I will do my best. I know this is a grief board, I have had enough experience at grief, way too much, so please let me recap. I lost my son jACON 9-28-03 TO 9-28-03. hE WAS SO perfext. perfect little noy. 10 little precious fingers and 10 perfect toes... Tehn all with in about 3 months my friend committed suicudr, and my dad died. I was a daddies girl. I have dealt with it, I have seen the light at that long end of the tunnel. Today I found my beloved Kitty baby dead on the side of the road. I loved him like my own children. I know it sounds silly, but it hurts the same.. I hate grief.. I hate the awful sick feeling I get. Maybe I should consider myself lucky, because my baby girl had my Karey cats babies, we still have a part of karey with us. I know that losing your child or family memner is very hard, and a pet is just a pet, but to some of us that's just not true. I loved him like I love my son, I will admit I would die for my child, but not my cat, tleast i don't think so. I guess I am blessed, I have a baby on my lap right now, so tiny and innocent, and cute/perfect/ I feel alittle bettr

deleted_user 04/07/2008

You are not being silly. Last March,my pomeranian Max was stolen from my front yard, along with several other little house dogs around where I live. Cruel people in this world. But I greived for him as well He was always here no matter what.

deleted_user 04/07/2008

Those of us who have pets and feel they're part of our family do not find it silly at all. They are not "just" pets. We love them and grieve for them. I'm sorry for your loss.

Sue

deleted_user 04/07/2008

Dont feel silly-I have a little chihuahua that I love dearly and he nearly died a few wks ago from a virus and that devastated me..Pets are Family members too!

deleted_user 04/08/2008

Every loss we suffer brings back the pain of each past loss. You have nothing to be ashamed of. My husband lost his Dad (his best friend) in 1999. Hubby works in law enforcement and I guess he felt he had to be "strong" for the family. He didn't cry but I knew deep down he was very depressed. A year later we had to put down our dog of 13 years. Hubby cried like I'd never seen before. I think he felt it was safe to mourn this time; he didn't need to be strong for the family this time. He was mouring both losses that day. We spent that day curled up in a chair together crying. That same year I lost my favorite aunt. 2001 I lost my grandma and 2002 I lost my father. I don't know why God allows such loss in our lives--so close together. I just know we shouldn't feel silly about any grief we feel. It's real pain. You are in my prayers!!!!

deleted_user 04/08/2008

I don't believe that a pet is just a pet.....i believe that every pet that comes into your household is a huge part of that household. They are always there without judgement to comfort us when we are down, to entertain us when we need cheering up. You have been through so much. BIG HUGS to you

deleted_user 04/08/2008

I talk to our two dogs as if they're "real". We've had both of them since puppies. Kadence (2 yrs old) calls them her "brothers"... they're a part of the family - couldn't imagine our family without either of them!

deleted_user 04/08/2008

Silly no way. the loss of a pet is the smae as lost of a loved on . I am sorry about all yuor losses but glad that you feel you can come here to talk huggskathyjo

deleted_user 04/08/2008

You're not alone...I was a mess when I lost my cat. A lost life is a lost life and it is only human to grieve for all of them.

deleted_user 04/08/2008

yournot being silly amimals can become part of your family.
I am sorry for your losses and my prayers are with you

deleted_user 04/08/2008

You're not being silly at all. My "Furbabies" are my only babies, and growing up they were my only siblings. The loss of each of them was simply devastating. Right now I have an 8 year old rescue mutt that was my sole companion for 5 years while I was trucking, and she is my very best friend in this entire world and constant shadow. Losing her will be one a day I don't even want to contemplate.

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