There are no handbooks to give a right way or wrong way to grieve....it is a very personal thing, grief is.
My suggestion to you is write out it all, the time leading to her death, and the time of her death, and right up til now....writing helps me. And you can mark your journal as private if you don't feel like sharing with your friends....writing lets you release all of your deepest feelings...it does for me anyway.
We can be much braver behind the keyboard or ink pen....best wishes to you. My daughter, who is 14 now, was 12 when her daddy died...and I am really not sure where she is with her grief as she seems ok, won't talk to me, won't write, won't talk to a counselor...so when I ask her, I get no answers. I only hope and pray that she is ok.....?
Hugs, Kat

Dear sweet lady!! Wish I could help you!! Have you tried another councilor yet. Seems to me that you should seek a second opinion.
Reputable councilors could give you resources to help you thru the process. I lost my Mom in 04. If you want to talk about it send me a message. ))))HUGS((((

thankyou i would recommend trying to get your daughter to talk in some way because if you have not greived propley it comes out in weird ways, mine is panic attacks and anxiety and belive me i am now a nervous wreck i am not the happy person i used to be, when a parent of spouse is lost the children are genarally seen as coping the best well this is what everythought of me i then got to scared and proud to tell people how i really felt and because of this i am at rock bottom but hopefully i will grt there as i am aware it takes time

Thank you....that is what I am most worried about, but when I do try talking to my daughter, she tunes me out, gets mad, throws a fit, tells me "IM FINE....HE'S DEAD, WHAT CAN YOU OR I DO ABOUT IT? JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!" I mean she absolutely screams it at me....but I keep continuing to bug her, I keep on asking her....but one can not force one to talk....I wish I could though.
Thank you for the heads up, what all you said, is what my biggest fears are for her in the future....

maybe it will just take a bit more time for your daughter to talk to you because belive me there is time it all comes out and hopfully your daughter will come to you and let it all out dnt fret to much that your daughter will suffer like i am as every body grieves differnltly hopefull she will come to you when she is ready dnt push to much tho as that will cause her not to let it all out remember it has to be in your own time.good luck

My son has still not grieved for his gramps' death 9 years ago. One of many ways he dealth with this is through drugs - he is in rehab and will still not talk about gramps. He did go to his granny's funeral last week so I am hoping this will help heal with gramps. Grieving is necessary no matter how it hurts. He won't talk to me or anybody about this. Sharon

I TRUELY DONT BELIEVE THERE IS A PARTICULAR WAY TO GRIEVE. EVERYONE HAS THIER OWN WAY OF DOING IT. I LOST MY DAD DEC 23, 2005 THEN MY 7 YR OLD SON DEC 21, 2006 THEN MY SISTER APRIL 14, 2007, MY SON HAS NOT GRIEVED FOR ANYONE AS OF YET. HE HAS CRIED A FEW TIMES AND WE DID HAVE HIM IN COUNCILING BUT HE WOULD NOT SPEAK TO THE COUNCLER. I HAVE NOT FULLY GRIEVED FOR MY DAD BECAUSE 362 DAYS LATER ILOST MY SON. BUT THE THING I FEEL BAD ABOUT IS THE GRIEF OF LOSING MY SON HAS NOT LET ME GRIEVE FOR MY SISTER. ITS HARD TO GRIEEVE AND EVERYONE WILL SAY THE SAME IM SURE. ITS LIKE BEING ON A ROLLERCOASTER, NOT KNOWING WHEN IT IS GOING UP OR DOWN. THESE DAYS ITS JUST SO HARD.
I AM SO VERY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS AND I HOPE YOU BEGIN TO HEAL, JUST DONT RUSH IT.
LOVE AND HUGS