Okay so TC's one year is coming up in the 21st and so I am trying to get everyone together for the night. You would think it would be easy, right? NOT!!! Okay so yes it falls on a wednesday which is a little diffcult, but seriously, I'm not asking people to stay out all night. So my two best friends are like yea of course and I told them at the beginning of January. One of them was best friends with TC and he was like yea I will take off that day now. No problems until I start telling everyone else. Paul, who was TC's best friend, is all like I don't know, I don't make plans till the last mintue. What the hell is that about? He was his best friend!!??!!?? I don't get it. And everyone else is all like I have to check. And these were answers I was getting when I told everyone 5 weeks in advance. 5 WEEKS!!! That should be enough time for people to take off work and stuff. Well I guess not, because as the day gets closer, I am reminding people, and I am getting the same freaking answers. It's like people don't care. What I year goes by and the friendship you had has just disappered? I don't get it at all. All I am asking for is for all of us to get together for 1 night, for a couple hours. And this is a group that always hung out together. It was always TC, me, Bryan, his g/f at the time, Paul, Robbie, Greg, and his g/f. The guys had a group called the Jerks, that TC was president of, Paul VP, Greg janitor, and Robbie and Bryan were just in it, I don't recall them having titles, but still. They were all best friends and were always together. We would always go out to eat, see movies together, party together, everything! TC was the glue that held everyone together. He was always the one to call everyone up and tell them to get their asses where ever it needed to be. And now noone talks to each other. When TC died, that group died. I was sad, because I just lost my boyfriend/best friend, and then I lose all my other friends. So I would try to be that glue. I would call people up and try to get everyone together and nothing. I only talk to Bryan and that's because he called me and was like me need to hang out. He seems to be the only one to care. He was at the hositpal the most, he came to like all the outings me had right after his death, he came with us to donor remembrance day, he came out with us to put a cross up where his accident was, when TC's mom was down I planned a party for everyone to get together and he was there (Robbie is the only other person to come), me and Sherry (TC's mom)even gave some of TC's ashes to Bryan after we realized how much he was there. He was always there party with, keeping me drunk, he was there when I had my mental drunken break down, and he was there sandwhiching me with his g/f(and my best friend) smothering me with kisses when the ball dropped because they knew I was depressed. They both have been there through everything with me, and what is so messed up was that I was never that close to Bryan when TC was alive. I had a great friendship with Paul up till he got a girlfriend and me and Robbie where great pals, he even spent the night a couple times when TC would go out of town, and no it was nothing like that (I know some of you might think that but it really wasn't) but he got to know me the best out of the group. Bryan was just always there for the fun. I never had a closer friendship with him like Paul and Robbie, so I don't get it. It just really annoys me!!! So first thanks for actaully reading all that and second HELP! I don't know how I should react to all of it. I get that it may be hard for people, but they have had a year, and if I can do this, they should beable to also. Right?
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