I am new here, I logged in because I am grieving for my brother. He was only 43 years old and died whilst abroad. I got a text from his phone on the friday night saying he was ill in hospital. I called and spoke to his friend who said he was in a diabetic coma ( undiagnosed diabeic they said ). The hospital were asking for $1800 to transfer him to ICU - they wanted cash so I contacted the British Embassy to help me. This was 7.30 in the evening here, at 2.30 am I got a call to say he had gone into cardiac arrest but was resussatated - they still hadn't put him in ICU. By 7.30 am I got a call to say he had died. I had to go to my parents and tell them - this has devasastated out family, we were all very close. For 10 days I was in contact with the embassy, the understakers in Jakarta and the understakers here. We evenually gotg him home the following Monday and I had to identify hs body as my parents were unable to even function. He looked really bad - sadly as my Mum really wanted to see and kiss him. The coroner was unahppy with the medical notes and so conducted an autopsy - he hadn't had cardiac arrest so now they have opened an inquest statng that it had better not be about $1800 for the reason he died. WE are totally devastated not knwoing now why he died. My mum is crying all the time and saying she onky knows he died because I saw him ( our funeral director did advise her and dad not to look at him as he was, to remember him lookig well. He leaves a 10year old son who is the double of him - We had the funeral Tuesday - arranged it all and I think he would have been proud of me. Don't knowhow to feel, have spent the last 3 weeks supporting my Mum and Dad and getting him home, then arranging the funeral, now all that is left is the inqueest and I feel like I have hit a wall. I can't sleep, our family after the servic said I look really drawn and ill and needed to have time to myself, but I want to be there for my parents and I also don't feel like I can relax, I want answers and I can't help thinking about what happend in his last hours
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