Bereavement Support Group

Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? Whether you lost someone recently or it's been years, grief and its accompanying emotions can be complicated to cope with. Join our online support group to connect with a supportive group of people who really know how you feel. Help is right here.

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deleted_user 11/14/2007

How long to it take for a heart to stop breaking, or at least.....not hurt so bad? some days I feel I can bare the pain, and then other days......well you know. How long before it gets easier.

deleted_user 11/14/2007

It's different for everyone depending on your circumstances and loss. The first year can be a roller coaster of ups and downs, but we need to go through and process the steps. We'll all try to help all we can. Rainbow

deleted_user 11/15/2007

I'm thinking Rainbow gave the correct answer. I surely don't know. I've gone from trying to get things done, seeming to recover - only to fall apart again. It's not pretty since I have to look for work in the new year, and I still haven't put my house in order. I care - and I don't care. How long will it take? Maybe I don't want to know.

deleted_user 11/15/2007

I think everyone is right here,there is no wrong.I can tell you from my experiences and those of my family and the people around me that it WILL get easier but be prepared for the hard days too.They will come when you least expect it.I use an analogy of waves for my grief because thats what it feels like to me.And they sometimes hit you unexpectedly..I can tell you what helped me alot is writing letters,keeping a journal and just feeling everything as it comes.Sadness,anger all of it.I still hurt and miss my family and friends soo much but it doesnt consume me anymore..We are all here with you..

lynette22 11/15/2007

when you get the answer, please post it, all of us are searching right along with you. My prayers and hugs. Lynette ~ Matthews mom

deleted_user 11/15/2007

Let's see, I'm 46.... maybe about 50 more years. Some things just NEVER leave you. But we are survivors, so we have to do what we can, don't we? This is a good place to vent and find support. I'm also interested in whatever others have tried that help with the emotional challenges.

deleted_user 11/15/2007

To me it seems like it will take the rest of my life. My dad died 9 years ago and I remember chest pains for over a year and I was still grieving after that and still do at times. Mom died in Oct, 2007 and now I star the toughest part again. Yes, when will it stop hurting - never totally, but hopefully it will lessen with some time. So many emotions. Sharon

deleted_user 11/15/2007

(((((((BIG HIGS)))))
I wish I could help you,Its been 3 yrs since my daughter Miranda was killed she was 17 ,and my heart is still as broken today as it was the day i lost her.

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