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On January 25, the love of my life was killed in Iraq. two weeks later, my favorite aunt died of a massive heart attack at a very young age (she was in perfect health too).
so my question is where do i begin to grieve? i can't stop crying about my first loss and i feel horrible i don't cry for my aunt yet.
everything happened so fast, and both were completely unexpected and i don't really know what to do. i have gone to grief counseling, which really didn't help. i was told how i felt, and it wasn't how i felt. i will try that again, but i need a better group.
am i a bad person here, because i have so much pain i don't know where to begin to sort it all out. my emotions are a roller coaster.
any suggestions?
so my question is where do i begin to grieve? i can't stop crying about my first loss and i feel horrible i don't cry for my aunt yet.
everything happened so fast, and both were completely unexpected and i don't really know what to do. i have gone to grief counseling, which really didn't help. i was told how i felt, and it wasn't how i felt. i will try that again, but i need a better group.
am i a bad person here, because i have so much pain i don't know where to begin to sort it all out. my emotions are a roller coaster.
any suggestions?
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If you are punishing yourself for feeling bad for some person and for not feeling that bad for this other person, your pain will be worse.
I suggest you should let the emotions flow. Talk with friends, relatives, with me if you want or other members, over and over about what you feel, dont mix your emotions of beeing bad person... just talk about what you feel for your lost. Let the emotion flow but dont let it take you with it, let it flow outside.
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is in a better place. Her quality of life was not there in the end. We knew she didn't want to live like that anymore. I am so not looking forward to the anniversary date this week Thursday! What can one do to ease that day? My dad and my sister live close too. If you have any suggestions on how to spend the day or honor the memory of my mom please share. Thanks
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Do not feel guilty in time you will grieve. Just give yourself the time.
And No you are not a bad person because you have not let all the emotions out.
This is such a time consuming thing for us!
Just give yourself all the time and space to sort things out you need. And don't plan on expecting too much of yourself for quite a while, if you have to.
Others around you often expect you to recover before you are ready, even with only one to grieve for.
We are here for you everyday.
I'm still trying to figure it out. On January 3 of this year i lost my mother and just 10 days ago I gave birth to my first born and lost her. I just dont know what to say think or how to deel anymore.
Grief comes from inside us and we have no control over it.
Phyllis