There is no right way to cope. We just battle on. I guess what helps is not focusing on our loss but celebrating what time we did have together. Looking back at the wonderful person they were.

Tomorrow is my Dad's first birthday in heaven and next month it will be the first anniversary of his passing. I cope better some days than others, but still cry when something brings his memory back to me. I am going to take flowers and a poem and visit his gravesite tomorrow with my Mom and my sister and I put a memorial in the paper in honor of his life here on earth and all the wonderful memories we shared with him. You need to remember all the good times you shared with him and remember his love for you and live on for him. He would want you to have the best life you can and enjoy your life. It is so hard to lose someone as close as your father or mother, but we cope day by day and pray it gets easier as we live on. God Bless you! jrmom

I lost my mom Dec 24th, 2007. I was really close to her. She was my best friend. She was with me through the good and bad. What helps me when I am alone is talk to her in my car if she can here me. Who knows? I will give her an update on how my dad is doing etc. It helps me on the way to work. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I smile. I am also finishing a project that she started. She had a property that she was going to sell. Anyway It sat for the year my mom was sick with cancer. My mom and I worked on it together. So everyday I fix something on it. I was thinking today I might feel sad when it sells. Two days ago some roses bloomed my mother's favorite color. It was if my mom was saying "Bob I am doing fine". I just had to smile. I also help my dad with many chores. The old guy is 76. He thought he would go first. I also give my mom updates on him, and how he is doing. I really try to face the sadness head on. I try not to run or avoid it. I also remember the good year we had in 2007 before she died. I spent some quality time with her. Well as strange as it sounds this helps me... Take care, Bob

honey buuny. i no exactly what u r goin through. u no what. it is the hardest thing ull ever do. do whatever u need 2. ok? run, scream, write, or whatever gets u through. ur in my prayers.