I am so sorry..... my husband died in a car crash, he went out and never returned. It really is hard, you dont believe it sometimes. It is the old word *time*, for you to come to terms, to grieve, just feel how ever you feel, it is normal. hugs

wow!!! your post has me sitting here thinking...i lost my mom suddenly....it's still hard to comprehend after 3 years ....we were very close and talked to each other mostly everyday...I think that you cope sec by sec..min by min.. hour by hour...day by day....the first holidays are REALLY hard or at least it was for me...first pray...get the crying out of your system as much as you can....i did until i realized i couldn't see out of my eyes from crying so much and then I just stopped and my "inner voice" just started guiding me...back to a functional way of life...reading was my escape as well and yoga....thinking about ALL of the good times helped a lot and still does also...God has a plan...we don't know what it is or why and we may not like it but it's HIS plan....try with the family to remember the good times during the holiday...the funny jokes, the funny incidents, funny stuff...laughter is very great medicine...celebrate the LIFE not the DEATH...it's hard to see now but as time passes things will come into focus...I hope this helps and so sorry for your loss...God Bless!

My daddy died 1 month to the day of being dx'd with Colon cancer that had gone into his liver. I know that is not sudden like what most of you have experienced, but it was sudden to me. I don't think you're EVER any better able to deal/cope with a death, no matter if it is sudden or how it comes. Please take care of yourself especially with the holidays coming. That is something I'm struggling with. Seven days after Thanksgiving, Daddy will have been gone only 3 mos. I don't have any words of wisdom to give you, I'm sorry. Just know you have alot of friends here and alot of support.

I lost my Mom suddenly and unexpecetedly, and I think shock was the only word I could use. Like it's a bad dream you can't wake up from. She was my best friend, we were together every single day, and I was and still am lost without her.

You deal with it minute by minute. Some days are harder than others but you have to go with it in your own way. Let yourself feel whatever it is you feel at the time. My daughter passed Feb of this year and I still feel like I am in shock 99% of the time. We still aren't sure why. I think that makes it harder. Sudden and still have questions. Stay with this website though It sure has helped me get through some rough days. My prayer are with you.

I've lost family members suddenly, and others I have had lots of time to prepare for. As someone said, there usually is no real difference. No matter how we try to prepare, there is a part of us that can not do it, so you still feel shock and disbelief. Huggs Rainbowmama

I lost my husband in May to a heart attack also.He was 40 yrs.old.I basiclly found him while he was taking his last breath.For the first couple of mths. all I could vision was that morning and the hopelessness I felt that I couldnt save him.I hated those feelings and needed them to stop for my own sanity.Now I try to only remember the good stuff.I keep lots of pix of us around the house and they remind me of the good times we had together.I also hired a quilter to make a quilt out of his t-shirts.They used the fronts of his shirts,and sewed the squares together.Its beautiful I keep it on my bed.He would usually buy a shirt where ever we went so each shirt has a pix of someplace fun we went to.Dont get me wrong I still have sad days,but I try to acceptwhat has happend because I k now I cant change it.Try to hang in there time eases the pain a little at a time

thanks to everyone, for all your posts, I have been thru personal matters plus the sudden death, my stress is very high, and affecting me physically, I try my best, to remember the good times, at this moment i just cant look at pics, or letters, or my boyfriend's clothes, I feel that it is too overwhelming, but I did cry so much, I and now at a point that it is not so frequent,, I find comfort here at this support site, and appreciate all your responses,

I lost a good friend was a year this past March came to bring me some dog food for my dogs as i was sick. Sat down had a heart attack and i was with him for the ten minutes he lasted...

SHOCK takes over your body when this kind of stuff happens you don't even feel human no more is how i felt. I didn''t seem to have an knowlege of what was happening around me for months after...I didnt' cry i didn't eat, i just made the motions of what i was suppose to do..

Shock kept me going until the day i finally had a good cry and then i cried every day for five months. It seemed the shock was wearing off and it was like i went to sleep for those months after he died and then woke up myself to months gone by i can't tell you what happen in those months...

Crying help heal me. Writing and talking to ppl healed me, prayers healed me...

And music was such a blessing to my soul over this time of grief i could cry one minute and laught the next thinking of silly things he did or said...

So each has to find what helps us. I am so sorry for your lost and will keep you in my prayers.

I have had 3 sudden deaths in my family. The first one was my aunt, who was hit by a car when I was 17; I had just come back from vacation with her the week before, and she was so healthy and happy. The 2nd. was my brother in law who was hit by a bus when I was 25 and he was only 28, with his whole life ahead of him, and the last was my brother who died 17 months ago. I was talking to him on the phone at 10 in the morning, and at 3 in the afternoon he was dead; he had committed suicide. I think due to the shock of a sudden death, it takes you longer to realize that it really happened. God bless you! ~~~HUGS~~~