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How do I 'Surrender Today'?

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I have been playing songs that remind me of my life with Terrill. One song just makes me cry and cry. But, last night I was listening to it and one verse just sounded so much louder, clearer and stronger than the rest: "I CAN'T LIVE FOR TOMORROW, AND NOT SURRENDER TODAY, WITH ALL ITS HEARTACHE, WITH ALL ITS PAIN"

Artist - Album - Song: Kem - Kemistry - "Say"

I have heard this song so many, many, many times and never once paid any attention to this verse.

At some point I'm going to have to Surrender Today. Today (the period between kissing him goodnight and 5 weeks of mourning) is a very long hard day! I have started therapy and I feel like my life is torn into so many puzzle pieces.
I wanna live for tomorrow but TODAY is still heavy on my back and choking the daylights out of me.
How do I 'surrender today'?
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I don't know that there is one clear answer for that. Just like that verse spoke to you, one day, you will read some words, or hear another song, or someone will say something to you completely unrelated,and a lightbulb will come on in your heart and mind. Keep your heart, mind and ears open, it will come.
Moving on, doesn't mean leaving a loved one behind, it simply means you have started a different type of relationship with them. A spiritual one, that can not be diminished by time, space, or interferrence of other people. It is one on one with them, and you learn to work their memory into your every day "new life."
I hope this helps.
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I am experiencing the same thing. Six weeks ago my boyfriend ended his life and everywhere I look, every song I hear it all reminds me of him. I too have started therapy and have found that my emotions like yours are still very raw. I too want to live for tomorrow without the burdens of today. Trust in God and surrender your cares to Him. He will help both of us find our path and bring peace and comfort to our worlds. You will be in my prayers!
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