at the end of july my boyfriend lost his father unexpectedly to an aneurysm (my boyfriend is 27, his father in his mid-50\'s). he\'s been taking on alot of the roles of his father - helping his mother around the house, trying to parent his younger brother, etc. as the oldest son, he\'s taken on the notion that he has to be strong for everyone else, and isn\'t really allowing himself personal time he needs to grieve and heal. he alos blames himself for his father\'s death, believe that stresses he placed on his dad was the ultimate cause of his passing. since october when he goes out with friends for \"a drink\" or for \"a couple drinks\" he always comes home hours later than he says he will be, usually very drunk, and in a horrible mood. this has lead to a few nasty fights. i\'ve tried talking to him about how he feels and telling how i feel when he acts like that. he\'s always genuinely sorry, but nontheless a few weeks later the same story will play out. i\'m worried about him and also the stress this is putting on our relationship. i believe alot this is because the holidays and his father\'s birthday have come/are coming. he\'s got a history of depression and substance abuse - which were all controlled until recently. i\'m at my wits end - how can i get though this with him?
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