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help..please...

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I am so upset. The tears wont stop and my stomach is feeling every wrench, as the pain of life is contracting its way out of me. So much disappointment and loss in one year. I cant think about life in the future if this is the present I now face. Its unbearable. I am wrenching with every yearning of the loss I feel. I am going to be sick. I held her as she died. Then after she died, I held another as she died. Then I held another as she died. Cancer! I hate the venomous name. Taken too early, taken too too soon. My grandmother, my mum and my best friend. I wake in the night calling on them to come back home. But 2007 took them all. Why whywhy. Please come back please come back. Please come back and make life the way it was. I cant keep on going. Where are you all? You loved me and I loved you. Nan you had a full life and I cared for you. My wonderful Mum you only made 54 years and we had a few weeks to prepare and my dearest flatmate and friend, who shared my home for 5 years, we didnt have any notice at all at 22 you hadnt even begun. Cancer pancreas, liver and brain Cancer got you all. WHY all of you, why 3 generations of very very special ladies, all gone at once. Why 2007? Why me? Why now? I am going to be sick it just too much!
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there is nothing I can say to take away your pain. Saying I'm sorry is so meaningless,It just something all people say when they really don't know what to say. I am still struggling with the loss of my daughter,3 yrs ago. Nothing anyone has said to me has ever made me feel better. Just know we are here for you,anytime you need us,or just need to vent.
I hope you can find some kind of peace.(((HUGS)))
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Have you considered counselling? It won't chnge anything, but it might help you through the worst of it. I also have had several losses lately, some to Cancer. It is tough by itself without the Holidays being upon us. People here care, and will listen and share what they can to help you. Sending huggs, Rainbowmama
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Oh Cat, I am so terribly upset for your losses. I just lost my Mom a month ago. She was my everything. To lose three women you loved must be so hard to bear. I have said all of your words though and begged for my Mom to come back. I feel your pain and understand exactly the disbelief you feel as I was reading your note, I will pray for you to find some solace and peace. I am so sorry, this has been especially difficult for you but please know you are not alone. ((((HUGS))))
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thanks for listening. sorry I was so overwhelmed. now I'm just tired and i'll see how tomorrow morning turns out.
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I am very sorry for your losses. I lost my mom to cancer and my only sibling to suicide and my exhusband, who was still my bestfreind all in 2and 1/2 yrs, so I kind of know what you are talking about. I know the pain is overwhelming. I had to go to grief counseling and these help sites and journaling to help me. Also anyone who would listen to me. I talk alot now to friends who knew all of them, and we share memories, but no matte what the holidays are hard. I turned to god, and that helps the most. Pray to help you make it through each day. Time does lessen the pain. You never forget but my favorite grandma shot herself 16 or so yrs ago and I was freaking out to say the least and now, all I remember are the good times. keep coming back here. Take good care of yourself.
Kelly
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I'm stunned at your past year's experiences. I lost my Mom in Sept., and while she didn't die in my arms as I'd wanted, my pain is that I spent her last day panicking while she suffered instead of holding her as you did. I can still see her walking from room to room before becoming bedbound. I understand the loss - It hurts. But please remember that while the grief is yours, you gave them joy: Holding them as they passed. Oh, how I wish I could replay my Mom's last day to finish it differently.

My heart goes out to you on the loss of three loved ones.
CASMIRA
CASMIRA
I have lost family members each year since 1992...about 20 in all and the one member I have left is kind of the glue that keeps the rest of us together....don't know why things happen the way they do...still trying to understand....God won't put much more on you than you can handle...I am living proof of that....it's hard...but you have to look for a new NEW....new way of seeing life, new reason for doing things differently...new everything....again, it's hard but you DO get through...you will always miss your loved one...remember it is not just you because everyone in this room has lost someone near and dear to them....be strong and be blessed! KNOW that when your time comes you will see your loved ones again...it is God's promise....yeah you miss them in the flesh!!!! but you have the promise of being with them again....live life for the now....seeing the country that you are in ...the beauty of nature is all around you...enjoy it!!...with the way mankind is screwing up earth it won't be so green in the near future.....Live...Live..Pray and Live.....YOU DO GET THROUGH...even though you may not like it some days and then you will look back and wonder HOW did I get through...remember FOOTPRINTS.....REMEMBER FOOTPRINTS.GOD BLESS!!!
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i know exactly how you feel.i just lost my wife of 42yrs.i too ask all those questions.i want her back.i cry.i yell.i am sad.let's pray we find peace and understanding.i love my wife and miss her.i don't know if i'll ever feel life again.all you and i can do is grieve for now...
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I want to say something meaningful, but I am at a loss for words. Three loved ones all in one year! Oh God! I cry for you and I will pray and will pray for you also.
starfish
starfish
I have no words to say to comfort you, but you are strong, and you will get through this in time...

In the meantime, put all things on hold you don't HAVE to attend to for now...and rest and take care of yourself.

You will need to process all of these seperately, so it will be difficult and draining. So take your time, and if you need help, don't hesitate to get it.

So much all at once can be very overwhelming.
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