I was dating a guy shortly after he lost his wife. She was terminally ill for 5 years, and he had sad he has done much suffering and is ready to move on. I realized there would be many ups and downs... Unfortunately, the relationship moved faster than it was emotionally ready for. I tried to get him to talk to work through his distance and his actions of pushing out and pulling me back in. He was afraid to talk, and the relationship never took a step back. Out of frustration, and out of trying to get him unstuck so to speak I have hurt him. He has decided to leave me and wants to know how I feel about his decision. I want to continue to be there for him, and support him as I truly love him, but he doesn't want to hurt me any more with his indicisions and "waste my time" when he doesn't know when he will get unstuck. There has been much damage through this ending of the relationship with hurtful comments/actions back and forth as a result of putting the relationship in a place it wasn't ready for emotionally. I am not sure if I should talk to him as he couldn't talk before.. I don't want to make matters worse. I want to continue to be supportive to him... I am not sure what he wants from me as he is asking what I am thinking about his decision to leave. I am clueless as to what he is feeling, and going through, other than I know it must be an unimaginable pain... How can I help him?
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