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I keep having dreams of my mom. She passed away in October from breast cancer. She passed much sooner than the doctors expected her to, and there was nothing we could do.
Since then I have all types of dreams, some good, some bad.
The first night I dreamt we were sitting on her bed talking. We both knew she had passed and she was more or less trying to comfort me and let me know she was okay.
Another dream something happened and I was going to call her and tell her when all of a sudden I shouted, "Oh no, that woman in the box, that was her." I realized she was gone and we couldn't talk.
I've also been dreaming of my grandmother (who passed in 2003), my uncle (who passed this year, too) and other loved ones that are gone away. They seem so real, in some dreams it's like present day and they are here. Other dreams they appear but I know they are gone.
On new year's day I had this horrible dream, mostly because it felt so real and when I awoke I was heartbroken and disappointed.
In this dream (like real life) we all sat and watched my mom die. They took her away and we had her funeral. But, afterwards, the cemetary workers went to bury the casket and found she was alive, the doctors were wrong. At home everybody was stopping by. We were planning a welcome home party. My cousins were asking me what food they should bring (I could "taste" the food as I dreamt). Everyone was excited, she was coming back home. Then I woke up, and she didn't come back. It felt like losing her all over again.
I thought I had progressed through so much of the grieving process, now I feel like I'm starting all over again.
Does anyone else deal with this? How?
Since then I have all types of dreams, some good, some bad.
The first night I dreamt we were sitting on her bed talking. We both knew she had passed and she was more or less trying to comfort me and let me know she was okay.
Another dream something happened and I was going to call her and tell her when all of a sudden I shouted, "Oh no, that woman in the box, that was her." I realized she was gone and we couldn't talk.
I've also been dreaming of my grandmother (who passed in 2003), my uncle (who passed this year, too) and other loved ones that are gone away. They seem so real, in some dreams it's like present day and they are here. Other dreams they appear but I know they are gone.
On new year's day I had this horrible dream, mostly because it felt so real and when I awoke I was heartbroken and disappointed.
In this dream (like real life) we all sat and watched my mom die. They took her away and we had her funeral. But, afterwards, the cemetary workers went to bury the casket and found she was alive, the doctors were wrong. At home everybody was stopping by. We were planning a welcome home party. My cousins were asking me what food they should bring (I could "taste" the food as I dreamt). Everyone was excited, she was coming back home. Then I woke up, and she didn't come back. It felt like losing her all over again.
I thought I had progressed through so much of the grieving process, now I feel like I'm starting all over again.
Does anyone else deal with this? How?
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My boyfriend passed away in January 2021. It has been an absolute nightmare to cope with his loss. It has been a sudden shock and heartbreaking situation. He was having heart failure since November but doctors assured he would get better with the treatments and medicines they were treating him with, instead his condition remained the same and he didn't seem to be improving. In January 18, his mom...
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I have some questions about widows. I have a family member in this situation, who is alternately needy and angry, will tell someone she needs them, then criticize what they are doing. She compares people and not surprisingly people seem to frequently come up short. How do you console someone but also get them to appreciate the people trying to help them.
There are several stages of grief that we go thru, and it takes awhile to get thru each of them. There's shock, denial, anger, depression and acceptance. Everyone grieves in their own way and in their own time ~ so it may take you longer than some or shorter than some ~ but STILL, you're not thru it yet.
I'm sure these dreams will stop at some point. Yes, they're upsetting but they're part of the process. When you've gotten further thru your grief, they'll become fewer and fewer until they stop altogether. Give yourself time ~ be good to yourself. If you find that you're having more trouble than you think you should, please seek out a Grief counselor. I did, and it helped me immensely!! You can contact one thru your local Hospice.
Best of luck, and I'm so very sorry for the loss of your dear Mom. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee