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Goin' nuts!

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Is it normal to form an imaginary reality to make it through the day? Let me explain. Lately, I have been pretending that my boyfriend is either visiting in Mass. or that we are arguing therefore not speaking. These both explain why I haven't heard from or seen him. Actually, I place my image in the morning during the ride to work. Through out the day I refresh the tale anytime I want to call or send a myspace message or text him. By the time I get home and get my son to bed I have to remember to "take down the image" or I'll go to bed angry and wake up in tears. Once I take down the image I "look at it" and laugh, because it worked. Today is day 2 without crying, but it's still early. I miss him so much.
Am I going nuts? Everyone tells me that I will be alright or that the pain will pass and I will be left with memories. Or the best one yet: just don't think about it. I have an appt with a therapist later this week.
Am I going nuts? Will I be alright?
Help!
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I think that what you are doing is normal. I make myself think that my son Cody is just out in the great big world doing his thing and doesn't call because he's busy and still a teenager. Hang in there. Just take it one moment at a time.
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You're not going nuts, many people have done this. The problem is, making yourself stay in denial will slow your grieving process, and you could get stuck there and not be able to move on. Grieving is a natural process, we need to let it flow through us like a river, and wash us clean of all the pain.
Share what you are doing with your counsellor. Perhaps they can suggest other ways of dealing with your pain. HUggs, Rainbowmama
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