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I went to my first bereavement meeting last night and wanted to share one of the things we were told. You must give yourself permisssion to do things. Even if it is to cry, to not celebrate, to not decorate, to be alone, not wory about what I am "not" able to do etc. Tell yourself constantly "I give my self permission to.........
I decided to give myself permission to enjoy the holiday even though it hurts. I originally said I was not going to put up a tree but now I am going to get a small one and make it a memorial to my husband with his photos.
I hope everyone can give themselves permission to do what ever they need to help them through the grieving process and the holidays.
The Hospice leader we had did not know about Dailey Strength but I made sure she does now.
She thought it was wonderful as we all here do also.
I decided to give myself permission to enjoy the holiday even though it hurts. I originally said I was not going to put up a tree but now I am going to get a small one and make it a memorial to my husband with his photos.
I hope everyone can give themselves permission to do what ever they need to help them through the grieving process and the holidays.
The Hospice leader we had did not know about Dailey Strength but I made sure she does now.
She thought it was wonderful as we all here do also.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
The idea of giving yourself permission is good. It is a good way to be able to move on in life and continue with or without the "normal" parts of life. I hadn't thought of it that way. I have never consciously done that since the loss of my husband, but I'm sure that I do it unconsciously. I hope that it makes the season easier to bear. I like the memorial tree. I haven't put on up since my husband died. I barely even decorate. Too depressing when I take it all down...but that happened long before he died. Glad you are able to help yourself.
Hugs,
Becky
ANyway, I like what you are going to do for Christmas. We have lots of pics of my MIL, but very few of my mom, and none of my dad, father-in-law or Uncle Don. Otherwise, I'd take small ones cut them into shapes, mount them on something and hang them on the tree. Maybe I should find some of hubby, me and the kids and start doing thta for the kids to pick up on.
You're such a sweet person for posting this. (*(*(*Thank you*)*)*) Rainbow
I Love the idea of putting up a tree in memory of your husband, I think that is so beautiful.
I also was not going to put up any decorations but I know that Christmas was a time that my husband loved, so I decided to give myself permission to go ahead and put a few out a few for Jesse...I have also decided I would light a special candle...not in memory of his death but in celebration of a life and loved we shared.
May love be what you, too, remember the most.....
Stella
im giving my self permission to not have a hug christmas and to keep it simple and quiet and fuss free.
I need to be happy this holiday for my family. They are all hurting too, and I know I need to be strong for them, and especially for my younger sisters. I have wonderful people in my life, and I can't feel like I'm spoiling other people's times because I am feeling so much hurt.