I don't think its really that strange. She's probably distraught at the loss of her significant other, feeling lost and lonely without him and is making a half-hearted attempt to see how she might fair in that arena when she is ready. I did the same thing before I realized that I couldn't really go through with it.

I agree with Devestated, I did the same thing... nothing came of it. Hang in there, and support her, I am sure she needs it... (HUGZ)

sweetpie, I am sure that your mom is just really missing having a companion to talk to and to hold. I can relate with her I lost my husband 3 mos ago Having a male to confide feeling helps me with my grieving. I am sure she means no disrepect to your dad she just needs a male friend so don't be too hard on her

I'm glad you are ok with it... that's pretty healthy. It does seem rather quick. But I also know how she feels. It's not easy being single again after so many years.

Hi! Well,I just wanted to say that after my father passed my mother started dating like a month later.I was only 14 at the time and was sooo not okay with it..Dont know if I would be even if I was older.So I give you respect for considering your mothers feelings.

Do you think I should tell her that I know and that I'm ok with it or wait till she feels she has something to tell me and feels ready? like when she actually meets someone or just wants to talk

I FIND IT WIERD. I LOSS MY EXHUBBY 3 YEARS AGO AND STILL NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN YET. I STILL MISS HIM.

A couple months after my fiance died, I did the very same thing. At the time, I was just so alone and desparate to have him with me....to feel safe and loved and not so utterly empty. My fiance was the person who would comfort me when I hurt...but that's gone.
Nothing came of it. My heart wasn't in it at all. I'm in love with my fiance. The first few months...having had your other half ripped away from you....you lose a huge part of yourself and try to search for something to fill that gaping hole in your heart and your life in an attempt to cope.

I lost my husband too and right after he died I was too dating. I was looking for someone to replace him, not heathy but I think some of us do it. I did a lot of things that I am not proud of like sleeping with men that I should not have. I relalized that I was looking for a replacement which of course I never found. It has been 4 years for me and I now have no interest in finding someone. I am lonely but not in a place to give myself to someone new.

I think it's normal for mom to try and fill the void, but once she realizes another man won't, she is going to come crashing down and will need your support. I wouldn't let her know you found out, only because that might embarrass and hurt her. Kudos to you for being so considerate of your mother's feeling's!

Your mom is lucky to have such a great daughter, who considers her feelings during this time.
After my husband died, I wanted someone to talk to so badly. I found a great friend who was introduced by another friend, he had lost his father recently. I wasn't ready to date or have a relationship, just needed someone stronger than me I guess. Now, this great guy is my husband, it took awhile but he was patient and waited while I attempted the 'dating scene'. I don't know when the friendship became something else or when I realized I loved him, but I was shocked that it happened without me even being aware of it. He said he loved me from the start but knew my heart belonged to someone else so he just waited until I was ready to share my heart with him as well. We've been together for 17 years now.

I lost my husband 4 1/2 months ago and when I think of dating I just couldn't bring myself to do it. I loved my husband so much that I just can't imagine seeing someone else and having someone else take his place. But it just be she is soooo lonely she doesn't know what else to do and some people need such a companionship they just reach out for it when it feels right to them . No suggestion here as I wouldn't know how to handle the info myself but do know I will hold you and your mom in my prayers and you will be in my thoughts. Pray about it if you do that some don't and I don't mean to intrude but God knows the answers to everything and in time if you watch and listen he will answer you as to what to do.

I lost my husband in october. I have looked at some sites just out of curiosity. I have not even communicated with anyone. You know, I have not seen anyone like my husband, maybe your mom is doing the same thing. Maybe it is her way of paying tribute to your dad.