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My husband justt died May 20th. He was 47. His health had been detrrioratong since he had and accident at work in 99. He kept fighting and there was no reason to believe he would die.
Money was tight and I was his caretaker. He constantly dressed and went to play dungeons and dragonss if he was going to work to maintain dicipline.
We had had a long standing D&D game for 16 years. The game questioned the nature of reality and if you are a D&D player you know that "when the game plays back" you can become enthralled. Reason and reality become meshed.
He had said several odd things over the years but I believed them because enough happened that they bore out eventually.
One of those odd things was an ID theft. Someone stole his id.I found out it was ongoing since the early to mid 90s. I reported it and that was that. Or so I thought.
The day he died he had recieved a phone call at 8:05 AM. A few minutes later I returned from the store and found him dead. What had surprised me was that his phone ringer had been turned off. He had turned it off. I found that odd.
I turned the ringer back on and as I was walking behind the mortitions to the hearse, the phone rang again. As I answered I realized there had been several missed calls- from "Kali", "Secret", and "Cell". Cell was calling again. When I answered, A woman's voice ' asked angrily "Who is this?"
"Who is this?" I replieed. "Click" she slammed the phone down. Next I got a text message from "cell" "Call me"
So I called. Cell hung up again. I have since spoken to her as well as several others. But Cell was the longest of the relationships. She had been told I was his sister. And she happened to live in the town where the ID fraud happened. Which makes me wonder if he was marrried to her too. Was the fraud not fraud but bigamy?
And a private detective was following me. He sexually harrassed me and told me he was looking for someone else not my husband or I. Not too likely.
Need to see a lawyer but I in so much pain I cannot even figure out what to tell him. In the past when I tried to question the legality of things he was doing I got no response from anyone who could have helped. He always assured me it was fine. It was just a game.
I am in shock.
Ann
Money was tight and I was his caretaker. He constantly dressed and went to play dungeons and dragonss if he was going to work to maintain dicipline.
We had had a long standing D&D game for 16 years. The game questioned the nature of reality and if you are a D&D player you know that "when the game plays back" you can become enthralled. Reason and reality become meshed.
He had said several odd things over the years but I believed them because enough happened that they bore out eventually.
One of those odd things was an ID theft. Someone stole his id.I found out it was ongoing since the early to mid 90s. I reported it and that was that. Or so I thought.
The day he died he had recieved a phone call at 8:05 AM. A few minutes later I returned from the store and found him dead. What had surprised me was that his phone ringer had been turned off. He had turned it off. I found that odd.
I turned the ringer back on and as I was walking behind the mortitions to the hearse, the phone rang again. As I answered I realized there had been several missed calls- from "Kali", "Secret", and "Cell". Cell was calling again. When I answered, A woman's voice ' asked angrily "Who is this?"
"Who is this?" I replieed. "Click" she slammed the phone down. Next I got a text message from "cell" "Call me"
So I called. Cell hung up again. I have since spoken to her as well as several others. But Cell was the longest of the relationships. She had been told I was his sister. And she happened to live in the town where the ID fraud happened. Which makes me wonder if he was marrried to her too. Was the fraud not fraud but bigamy?
And a private detective was following me. He sexually harrassed me and told me he was looking for someone else not my husband or I. Not too likely.
Need to see a lawyer but I in so much pain I cannot even figure out what to tell him. In the past when I tried to question the legality of things he was doing I got no response from anyone who could have helped. He always assured me it was fine. It was just a game.
I am in shock.
Ann
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I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
I wish there were some other words of comfort I could offer besides try to stay strong.
Whatever the situation you have to deal with, just put yourself in the hands of a good lawyer, as soon as you can. Let him/her deal with any issues. Wishing you well.
N.B Police are a lot cheaper to work with.
My son (his stepson) is in the state government in another state. He is working from there to help me. I just have to get there.
Even if I go to the police I probably need a lawyer. Stupidity and blind love may not be an excuse in the eyes of the law. NOr do I even know a law was broken.
My son says that he has believed my husband had functioanl schizophrenia so to stay calm.
My first step is to get my $1100 retainer back.