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I AM SORRY BEFORE I EVEN SAY WHAT I AM GOING TO SAY..BUT I HAVE TO LET IT OUT..I DONT WANT CHRISTMAS TO COME..YES I HAVE FAMILY AND FRIENDS..BUT THE THOUGHT OF CHRISTMAS IS KILLING ME...I WOULD HAVE BEEN A LIL OVER HALF WAY WITH MINE AND SCOTT'S FIRST PREGNANCY AND WHEN WE FOUND OUT THAT WE WERE PREGNANT AGAIN WE WERE GOING TO TELL THE FAMILY ON CHRISTMAS..AND THAT NOT ONLY A NEW BABY BUT THAT IS WAS TRIPLETS...BUT NOW I CANT TELL THEM THAT..NOW I CANT TELL MOM SHE IS GOING TO HAVE NEW GRANDBABIES..OR SCOTT LIL SISTER THAT SHE WILL HAVE SOME NEW TO BABYSIT..I WONT BE TELLING MY BOYS THAT THEY ARE GOING TO BE BIG BROTHERS AGAIN...I JUST HURT SO MUCH RIGHT NOW...IT WAS GOING TO BE SUCH A GOOD CHRISTMAS AND NOW I COULD CARE LESS IF IT COMES OR GOES...I USED TO LOVE IT SO MUCH AND NOW I FIND IT HARD TO EVEN THINK ABOUT PUTTING UP A TREE...IS THIS WRONG OF ME..IS THERE ANYONE ELSE OUT THERE THAT FEELS THE SAME AS I DO...IT IS HARD TO BE HAPPY WHEN ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS GO TO BED AND NOT GET UP UNTIL THE HOLIDAYS ARE OVER...SORRY I GUESS I JUST HAD TO VENT AND LET IT OUT SOMEWHERE..I AM SORRY FOR THIS
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It will come, and it will go, and you will get through it. Sending huggs, Rainbowmama
I know how you feel I hate Christmas,When I was 5 my Father passed awy 3 days after Christmas.Also since my daughter Miranda was killed 3 yrs ago it has gotten even worse,plus her B-day is week after Christmas,she was the fisrt New Years baby in 1987,and would have been 21 this year. So I am very Baa Humbug..hate it.
I HAD to celebrate Easter. It was important because I could not allow my family to miss an important part of healing. I surely did not feel up to running out right before the mall closed, grabbing any old basket I could find.
But, I did buy Easter things... and we did dye eggs, and we did celebrate Easter even though it was the last thing I wanted to do.
I'm happy that I had the younger children. If not for them, I might have never looked forward to another holiday and that was 21 years ago.
It became my goal to make EVERY holiday and birthday ESPECIALLY memorable for the family I had left.
I know that holidays are hard. Even for people who have not lost loved ones - the suicide rate triples during this season.
And if you decide NOT to celebrate a holiday, then it is your choice. You have the right to handle your grief in any way you feel appropriate.
When my daughter's father died right before Christmas a few years ago, I went over, urged her out of bed, took her shopping and to lunch. I did this at least 10 times before Christmas. I bought all the gifts for her girls and husband and helped to wrap them all. I planned and arranged the Christmas (family) party.
The next year, Jessica was sad, but she knew I would be over for the "ritual."
Now she says it is the best thing I could have done for her. The girls never knew how Jessica wanted to toss Christmas aside, and it is good that they didn't know. They still don't know that I forced my daughter to face Christmas that year.
Once again, I did it for the kids. And it turns out it was the right move.
My daughter recently wrote a journal entry about "changes" and moving on. It was very inspiring and I can see that she is healing from loss.
I'm not advocating that everyone "snap out of it" and have a great celebration in your time of mourning.
I'm simply sharing what worked for me.
If there is one thing I have learned; there is no one solution to such a complex problem as loss and grieving.
I hope each of you find a bit of peace during this holiday season.
Jo :)
I feel there are no words that can heal or help with your pain or fully extend my sympathies. But I understand how the holidays underscore our sadness and loss - even more. I wish I could celebrate them - I love Christmas and wanted to hear the songs and join the shoppers yesterday...I wanted to begin decorating my house - but the void is a silent protest to happiness.
You have your husband and family who, hopefully, can help you through this. We're extended holiday invitations but while people mean well and expect to help us get over it, we all grieve our own losses in ways the next person can't possible comprehend or feel.
The holidays will come whether or not we celebrate them. Just find YOUR place and time and manner of doing what YOU need to for yourself this year - as a mother, only YOU know what's right for what you feel.
What your feeling is okay.
He was our holiday as he was the life of the party. I know Christmas morning will be nothing but tears when it has always been my favorite time of the year.
I can't listen to christmas songs especially the one "All I want for Christmas is You".
There is no reason to be sorry for how you are feeling and your family should understand.
Sending hugs, Margaret