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Well I lost my dad in June of this year, it's been a few months now, and I still can't believe it happened. I mean I had to ID his body and everything (he had a bad heart attack and died on the lawn in front of his car and was only 58). I have trouble sleeping at night still, think about death and all these emotions... I also lost my job 2 weeks before my dad died so that was another loss, but both at the same time was hard. I had to plan the viewing and the funeral pretty much on my own as I am the older child and my parents were divorced. I cried a bit, but not as much as I thougth I should or needed to. There is a big past with my dad, he was pretty abusive when we were growing up, in all aspects and I forgive him for that, but maybe with his passing it opened up a can of worms... about a month after his death I started to pyscailly feel unwell, with all these symptoms that seem to be anxiety related as they can not find a pysical cause and I have been through every test! I guess it needs a way out, all that stress and hurt and grief and since I didn't have time then, maybe it's just coming out on it's own. I hope it gets better and I feel better, with time they say!??? Who knows eh? Anyone else can relate? Also xmas is around the corner, I feel like I will break down at dinner if we even have one this year! :(
Death is a hard pill to swallow I guess, and it just sucks I guess! :(
Also, like I read, people feel let down from the support from friends or family, most people just don't know how to deal with death themselves and don't know what to say, so that's why we need to support each other, because we know how it feels (to a point).
Hugs and best of luck to everone!
Sam
Death is a hard pill to swallow I guess, and it just sucks I guess! :(
Also, like I read, people feel let down from the support from friends or family, most people just don't know how to deal with death themselves and don't know what to say, so that's why we need to support each other, because we know how it feels (to a point).
Hugs and best of luck to everone!
Sam
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
My dad died 6 months ago, it still hurts, but each day passes and each day it seems a bit easier to get through...its different, life will never be the same again,
I lost my father when I was 17. I had to go off to college a week later. I had no time to grieve...so what happened? I became sick with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I might have gotten it anyway, but it was no coincidence that I got sick after he died. No one could relate at that age. My best friend died when I was 20. I knew her for 15 years, it was sudden and horrendous. Then 2 1/2 yrs ago, my sister died suddenly from cancer. We didn't know she had it until a week before she died. I saw her die. It was the worst thing I have ever been through. I cried constantly while she was dying and then when she died, I went shopping at Target like an hour later. I couldn't sit still. She was abusive to me. I hated her at times. Not physically, but mentally. She treated my like shit up until 2 years before her death. Anyway, after she died, I stopped feeling much. A year and a half later, all of these emotions came pouring out. I started crying all the time and fearing like "who will die next." I also became mad at her for leaving me and for never having been there for me until the end. I wanted to grow old with my sister. It does get better, but it is a long road with many different emotions. Grief is a funny thing. The day after her death, I went to work and acted fine except I was jittery and could not sit still. People were like, "why are you here working?" Last yr., I broke down and went into a depression. Sleeping, crying, and going to a therapist. I am finally coming our of it. Just feel what you feel and "no", most people don't understand. We do!
I can't wait till I start to feel pyscially better but I guess I might need to work on the mental stuff more to make that happen, who knows!
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I am soo sorry. This is a super difficult time. My son passed away last year in September from heart disease, then it was his birthday, then the holidays. Although I do remember being anxious and worry about the holidays, truthfully I was in such a fog that I don't even remember what we ended up doing.
Your physical symptons are sad to say normal. I have had panic attacks, my chest hurts all the time (Doc suggested drink a tall cold glass of water, this has helped). It 14 months since I last saw my son and I still feel horrible, I woke up this morning anxious and with this huge lump in my throat. I will keep you in my prayers.
It DOES get better with time. The tough part is letting time pass so you WILL feel better.
Trust me, Friends...
My sweet uncle (mentally challenged) was like a son to me. He lived in my home and passed away with coronary artery disease. Five weeks later, my daughter was killed in a tragic car crash.
This was a tough time for me!
That was many years ago, and the passage of time REALLY helped.
My mother died suddenly from V-tach a few years ago. Then my mother and father in law passed away within a few months of each other. Following their deaths, my only stepdaughter was murdered. (She was 23.) My father died suddenly five months later.
I lost all of the above within a period of 3 years.
TIME HEALS. Maybe not ALL wounds... but time heals to a degree.
I hope you have peace during the holidays, and enjoy the living family you have.
There is a thought that keeps me going regarding "time."
When i wonder if my loved ones miss me like I do them, I have convinced myself that "time" does not exist where they are. It might be 20 years for me - but only 20 minutes for them. This thinking makes me happier.
Jo :)
I cant imagine how hard it is for you, having to have ID his body. I had the police tell me about my Dad and felt that was horrible enough. My Dad passed at the end of August and I have only just begun to cry.
I think it might help to read books or look up on the internet life after death and near death experiences, this has helped me a bit. I have started to cry now after months and it does help. It will happen when you are ready and when it does just let it out.
I have a large family and feel that none of them care, I tried keeping in touch with my sisters and they dont bother returning my calls, so I just think sod them I will deal with it on my own.
hugs to everyone....*smiling*