The answer is No. God does not plan our tragedies, but he does mourn them when they happen. It is likely that Andy died as a result of what the Bible calls "time and unforseen occurance". Sometimes bad things happen to good people for no reason - just in the wrong place at the wrong time. I can give you lots of scriptural references if you want them. They explain why bad things happen at all, why God allows it, what the future holds for our loved ones who've died. Let me know if you want that information and those scriptures.

i don't ever remembering being able to answer why.

why him? why now? why no cure? why this disease?

i am sure that there was angel with him at the accident to help him cross over.

if we could answer why, would the peace come easier or harder. i am not sure.

all i know is that we are left behind to continue on our way and see our loved ones on the other side someday.

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jan

God is all good. He has no evil plans for anyone. He gave us free will so when something "bad" happens it is always a human thing.
The best way to explain is if you were standing on the top of a hill and you saw two cars coming from opposite directions speeding around a curve toward each other - you know what's going to happen - there is no doubt in your mind but the drivers of those two cars are responsible not you. So it is with God. He gave us free will and His promise was to not interfere with the course of living our lives as we see fit.

I am so sorry for your loss. I am struggling with the loss of my sister to cancer. I too have questioned why. I have been angry with God, I have driven over to her house because I forgot, I have called her cell phone to hear her voice I have questioned why she hasn't been over. It is so hard to lose a sibling because they are truly your oldest and dearest friends they know you and love you warts and all.

My mum's pastor used to come out to her house once it got too difficult for her to attend church herslef. I still struggle with how she could have had such enduring faith through the horrible illness that eventually took her. Her pastor said once that some of the hardships sent to people are there to make the love of god more attactive, a safe haven to turn to per se. That if you struggle through life the reward of heaven is so much greater. That troubles me still. The only reprive I got was knowing that it was something that gave my mum comfort and peace. But I too have a lot of trouble seeing God as compassionate and caring. This probably doesnt help you out a whole lot, but you're not alone in the questioning.

I believe when Jake popped up in heaven, God turned around to him and said "What are you doing here?" When a loved one dies in an accident, it is human freewill that caused it and not God. Someone hung a cable to protect his land, but he forgot to furnish it with flags and warning signs, maybe he thought he would finish it on Monday. But because he didn't, my child didn't see the cable. I don't think he meant for the harm to happen, he just didn't think his actions through. So I don't blame God, this was an unfortunate tragedy that I know live with everyday, until I can join Jake with God. I hope this helps.

Hi Sarah, My son Ben was killed in a car accident on Jan. 8 of this year, his 27th birthday. I don't believe that God "lets" these things happen. I think of it like this. When my children were little they would get sick, fall down, maybe need stitches or at times break bones. Did I want them to be hurt or did I make it happen? No. But, I was there to help them when they were sick or hurt. I was there to comfort them and help them through those difficult times. That is what God does. He doesn't cause any of these things to happen to those we love but he did promise to be with us and help us. Try not to think of death as God taking your brother, try to think of it as something that happened to your brother, and God received him. Hope that helps.

My son had several near death experiences I believe God saved him from before he died. I don't know why God chose not to intervene for Isaac one more time. Perhaps he had enough pain. I don't believe it is God's plan, but I do believe in God's grace to overcome these bad things, one way or the other.

hi sara,i think we all have our own idea on why ,when ,and how we ,and loved one die.my son,sam died when he was 31 ,we were devistated but i belive that we will be together again,i belive in aternal life after death. my son had epilepsy and died from heart failure due to a granmal seizure,i know that now he is with our lord and he suffers no more,i belive in angels and the different kinds of themi think god needed another warrior angle and hee chose my sam,yes i miss him terrible, there isn"t day that goes by that i don"t think of him.we are destained to die from the second of conceoption this is life and death and to question it ,well i guess there is not any answere that will keep our hearts from the pain of missing the ones we love.

hey. i have the same thoughts. i already know why i have to go through this, what i have to learn and unlearn by it, but i have no clue why he was killed. that makes no sense, and i dont think it ever will. so in my mind the answer starts with a yes but then becomes a no, because theres no sense in him dying. none what so ever...