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Death Certificate

deleted_user
deleted_user
My dad passed away in Feb. I'm have trouble letting go. No funeral or burial, family and friends had a memorial service. I never got a copy of the death certificate. I was just wondering if that would help me let go and move on. I'm actually scared to go get it, because then that makes it a reality. But on thee other hand it could have a reverse effect and put me down even farther. What to do? Confused and scared.
MoMoe
MoMoe
Well for me i ended up being the next of kin when my mom passed. They told me that day i had to sign all the papers and figure out things that i never thought about before. How many copies of the death certifacate do you want? Sitting there thinking, im making the final decision on how i want to remember her. When i first got the official documantaion i had to read it make sure everything was correct. It was hard, its a reality check. But now over time when i do look at it, its actually easier to deal with her passing.
dilli
dilli
My Dad died in May 2007, my Mum is still here.
i recently got a copy of Dad death certificate, and yes, its final, no turning back he is dead. It scared me, but after a day or two it was also a relief, I know now he won't come home, it hurts..but now I know acceptance is going to be a big part of my healing.
This is my own experience, we had a funeral service, no burial, did not go to be witness to cremation, there is no grave, or memorial wall, but now I know he is gone...now i can move onto the next step in grief and learn to live with his memory... do what you are comfortable with and nothing more...
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you don't need a copy I suppose you could skip it, but you need to face the reality eventually in some other way. Putting it off only makes it harder to do later. I don't want to sound harsh, I just know that we have to face these things, and the sooner we do, the sooner we start to heal. huggs Rainbow
deleted_user
deleted_user
When my Dad died in March I went to see him in the Chapel of rest ( i think thats what it was called) I saw him and I demanded a copy of his death certificate . I still have it and yes its very upsetting to see it but it does help me. As does having a copy of his obiuary that was in the paper.

Were now trying to get a inquest done so we can get complete closure but thats proving difficult.
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