I'm sorry you are feeling sooo bad. You could be telling my story. However, I do not have any children to care for....sometimes I wish I did so I could help take my mind off my Momma.
I will be here for you....

I really know how you feel, its been 8 months since my dad died and lately that i've been crying more and more. I think i went to block everything out mode and i'd tried not to think about him and remember him but now i find myself thinking about him and forcing myself to and i don't want to because it just makes me cry and cry. I can't talk to anyone about it because my familty are grieving as well and we've never been a cuddly family who spoke about their feelings and my boyfriend pretends he doesn't see me crying. I can't see an end to this nightmare until i'm gone too

I just hit the six month mark for my Dad's death. You are not crazy for thinking you might find him in another room of the house,I go to ring my Dad all the time... then remember I can't talk to him any more.
Your not alone, there are so many here that are going through the same thing.
You have to give yourself time, I know everyone says that but its true...time does help..and you have to allow yourself to feel all those emotions..and cry..wish I could cry, so far i haven't but one day I know i will.
(((hugs)))
yue not crazy, your grieving for a dearly love Dad.

I am so sorry for the loss of your father, and you are not crazy...you are not only dealing with the sudden and unexpected loss of your dad, you are also having to still function and take care of a child in the process of your grief...so do all you can to give yourself the time you need to do that, and to rest. All the extras in life can be put on hold for a while.

Crying is very good for you, but if it is too overwhelming, you might want to see your Dr. about some antidepressants.

You are going through all the expected stages of grief process...shock and denial (why you look for him in the middle of the night) sadness (crying) and depression are all parts of it. And we all go through the process our own way, and in our own time. So if anyone thoughtlessly tells you to "get over it" that is just what they are doing -- being thoughtless.

Actually, two or three months afterwards can be some of the most difficult to deal with...the denial starts wearing off and reality starts setting in...all the immediate tasks are taken care of that distract you at first, and family and friends go home, cards stop coming, and people stop calling. And you are faced with still no loved one.




We are here for you, and you are not alone. Please feel free to vent, ask questions, or just what ever is on your mind.

You are not alone.

I understand your pain, and I wish I could cry like you do. Most times, I don't know how to cry, partly because I cannot stand to cry in front of others and so I hold it in. Keep crying. It's good for you. My mother passed away eight months ago and it still feels like yesterday. In fact, I can't quite tell how the time has passed. I'm 23 and I feel the same: I'm too young! Aren't moms and dads supposed to go when they're old and gray and have seen you married and played with their grandkids? My mother was only 52. You are not crazy. Hang in there, my dear.

IT'S GOOD TO CRY LET IT OUT AND TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME. IT'S ASLO GOOD TO HAVE PHOTOS OUT IN SIGHT TO HELP YOU THROUGH THE DAY.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been there and actually I'm still there. No, you're not crazy for thinking you can find him - you are grieving. Heck, I dated an empty chair. Please lean on your friends here on DS. We care. We will listen.

Awe sweetie.........I wish I could hugg you for real right now! I have cried every day for 5 months so far. The spells are getting shorter, and more time passes between them. It takes sometimes up to a year before you get past that stage. Why can't you ask someone for a hug? SOmeone at work, at home, etc? Sometimes, I just pick up my cat, (who HATES it by the way), and hug him.
If you have friends at work, try to be more open with them. Maybe sometimes people want to h ug you but are afraid that you will start crying again. And so what if you do? When you are all cried out, you'll feel better. Our bodies know what we need, and the tears cleanse the soul.
You hang in there. Try to reach out to people if you can. They may understand more than you know. Huggs Rainbow

HI GOD GAVES US TEARS AND ALL THE OTHER EMOTIONS ,ESPECIALLY LOVE.THINK OF THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE PASSED AND NO ONE CARES.YOUR DAD WILL FOREVER BE IN YOUR HEARTS. IT'S OKAY TO BE ANGRY THAT MEANS YOUR NORMAL.TIME WILL PASS AND YOU'LL STILL HAVE YOUR EMOTIONS BUT THEY WILL BE DIFFERENT. YOUR DAD'S BLOOD IS A PART OF YOU SO WRAP YOUR ARMS AROUND YOURSELF AND IT'S A HUG FROM YOUR DAD.IF MY ARMS WERE LONG ENOUGH I'D HUG YOU MYSELF.IT'S OKAY TO FEEL BAD YOU LOVED HIM SO MUCH,MY KIDS ARE STILL GRIEVING AND HAVING MELTDOWNS OVER THEIR DAD WHO PASSED SUDDENLY WITHOUT A WARNING ,IT WILL BE 3 YRS. ON MARCH 11TH.LOVE WILL KEEP YOU GOING I HAVE LEARNED THAT THEY ARE STILL WITH US ,REALLY WITH US I HAVE ALL SORTS OF SIGNS,MBUT IT'S IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER THAT YOU WILL SEE HIM AGAIN AND HE WANTS YOU TO GRIEVE BUT ALSO ENJOY THE REST OF YOUR TIME HERE UNTIL GOD CALLS YOU.WE ARE YOUR FAMILY HERE AND WE WERE ALL BROUGHT TOGETHER BY GOD WITH A COMMON PURPOISE.I'M SURE YOUR DAD TOLD MY HUSBAND TO HELP YOU OUT. TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND REMEMBER HIM WITH LOVE AND YOU'LL BE OKAY.TAKE CARE LOVE AND HUGS GALORE KATHY

I'm sorry for your loss. I know how you feel, I loss my grand father in 2001, He was like my father. We were very close it took me a long time to accept that fact that he gone. It still hurts til this day but I know he is in a better place.You would not want your Father to suffer pain. God took him for a reason. I know it's hard but crying will make you stronger. Sometimes it's hard to let go but we have no other choice. Your father would not want you to suffer like that. He want you to let him go and go on with your life so that one day ya'll will meet again. We all must leave this world one day. So when ever you want to cry let it out,but try praying and asking GOD to pull you through and help you accept that facts. Please take care and remeber prayer is your only hope.

my dad passed away over 36 years ago, but I still have him in my heart, I may cry but it is because I miss him, and now that my boyfriend just died, it seems I feel that my love for both of them will help dry my tears,i cherish the good memories in order to let go of the sorrow, hugs to you,

ahh sweetie i know how you feel my dad died three months ago and i know its hell my dad was sick for a year and i knew that death was the only way it was going to end even with some warning it hurts like hell i wish there was something i could say to make the pain go away i cried all the time about a mo ago and just could stop so thats totally normal you cant get comfortable and everything you do seems pointless but it isnt focus on your precious baby and you may want to go the doc or a therapist to talk all of this out and maybe get a med that might take the edge off im here if you wanna talk and PS you are not to young im only 28 yrs old and been though two sick parents

First, you're not crazy. Your grieving and seriously missing your Dad. It's only been 3 months - There's nothing wrong with you. I can only hope you find places where you can let out a good cry.

But most of all, is there anyone - personally - you can talk to? I wish I knew where you lived - I'd give you hug...it's not being crazy - it's need for support. I get them from a friend who I'm sure I don't return the same support but you TRULY need to tell people around you - whether they know or not - that you need more emotional support than you're getting. Speak up...don't put yourself down...My heart hurts for you.