I don't know what a spiritualist church is actually, so I can't help you there. I have been in counselling for a few years for another problem, and I would imagine each counsellor has their own way of doing things. The first couple of sessions will probably be a "getting to know you" time, and the counsellor will be able to tell where you are having the most trouble, and begin by helping you to get through that. Sometimes, mine and I have a "specific" area to work on, sometimes I just talk and she listens, and if something comes up that we need to explore further, she lets me know. Good luck with it, and give it time. Healing does not happen overnight. Huggs Rainbow

If we're thinking the same thing regarding a "spiritualist church", I went to one years ago - not regarding the deceased but just to get answers in my life. I wouldn't go to one of those now, and I'd think twice about it if I were you.

As to counselling, it depends on the individual. I didn't need anyone to tell me that I'd need grief counseling and decided myself the day after the funeral. But when I was offered one-on-one or group, I chose groups first (also at the suggestion of a physician relative who knew me best). That decision has to be up to you and your needs. I may still seek individual counselling but on a separate issue.

Regarding groups - I have found that you need to "shop around" - go to various ones until you find what "fits" or helps. Alot depends on the participants. Some are more philosophical - some will blatantly cry during a meeting. For me, that's where the emotions are real, shared, and we feel less alone or odd in our grief. But unless you're pleased with your first couple of encounters, don't settle.

God Bless and good luck.

I just wanted to let you know I have been going to counceling and for me it helps alot. I get to talk about things that noboby else wants tohear anymore and I feel a litle better after each session. I don't know what a spiritualist church is but the counceling is doing me well

A spiritulist church is where they have mediums and they talk to a group of relatives.
You pay a donation to go. A few people have had dead relatives come through and say there is no way that the medium would know the things about the relative that they say. One medium even stood like my friends mum. I just wanted to know what peoples experiences or views where

My grandson was studying with a spiritualist and I was sort of dismissive when he would talk about it, but after my husband passed Richard gave me a "message from grampa"...it was a reply to something I said to my husband while I was the only one at the hospital with him after he died. They were words of comfort that could have only come from my husband.

going to a therapist is like seeking your truth and forces you to sometimes face parts of yourself that you many not completely be ready to face.

for me, it is always difficult to go and be so completely vulnerable to a stranger.

my advice is to take your time in choosing your therapist and listen to your gut feeling on whether you feel this person can help you. just because they are professionals doesn't mean every one is right for you.

best wishes.