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Last August 3rd we lost our Mother to cancer. Now, this past week, November 18, we have lost our Father to dementia. The funeral is over and we are home now. After a week of family all around me and preparations to make it is just TOO quiet and I think I'm going to lose my mind. After my Mom died we went to our campsite where we have lots of friends and had lots of people around us. Now we are just home and I feel lost. I know next week we will start working on the will and all that the estate entails and that will keep me busy but until then I have to go through many hours of pain and loneliness. How do people handle this? I don't think my father's passing has really hit me yet. As he was dying I laid my head on his chest to give him a hug. His breathing was very slow at this point. My siblings said to check again and listen for a heartbeat this time and I did and there was none. I truely believe that I heard my Father's final heartbeat. What an honour. He was a generous, kind-hearted humerous man who was loved by all who knew him and he will be dearly missed by all. Any suggestions on how to get through this lonely time would be greatly appreciated. I have already received so much from becoming a member of DS. Thank you all so much. Cath
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad on the 4th and I am still having a hard time with it. I loved him much like you loved your dad I think I had the same feelings about his manner too. The only thing I can give you for encouragment is to try to stay busy and speding some time in the bible helps a lot too. My wife and children have been a big help and then there are the people here, the most caring bunch I think I have met in my life. I will keep you in my prayers and hope that each day brings less and less pain for you. Keep focused on the good memories you have of them both. It does help a lot.
God bless you Cath.
Jordan
I agree that staying busy will probably help though right now I feel paralyzed with heartache. It is too raw yet I think but I will get busy with the holidays coming up soon. I won't let my daughter down by letting this get in the way of that too terribly much even though her heart is broken every bit as much as mine. They were very close. My husband is my rock and he will keep me strong too. Thank you again for your thoughts and words. I'm so sorry for your own loss and pain. It is a terrible time in a child's life. I think those of us on DS having each other are luckier than most. Take care, Cath
Now that all is quiet, I've had a tough time too. I do some reading and some meditation, but you can't do that all day. I have tried to get involved in "long over due" projects here at the house but don't have much "drive."
Sending prayers your way. Rainbowmama
I understand your pain. As my mother's condition worsened at home in hospital bed over the past year, my father's Alzheimer's condition and then broken hip landed him in nursing home while I was burying my Mom. His recent heart attack has me finalizing plans for him - whenever and just in case.
I've wondered if there would be two funerals this year for me, as well, never expecting both parents (separated since I was a baby) to deteriorate at the same time. My Mom was my rock. Without her, I'm crumbling.
While still dealing with the grief of your Mom's passing the grief for your Dad will intertwine and show itself in time, in different ways, and you have to take it as it comes. I'm stuck in a 'guilty' mode over Mom's last day, watching her going and now wondering was there more I could have done. I fell asleep less than an hour before she passed - the opposite of what I wanted.
You had a gift, as did your Dad - of being so close to one another as he drew his last breath. Treasure that gift - even though it opened the door to sadness - treasure it, for you will have years to remember how important it was to both you and your father.
Sending my sincerest condolences.