Yes. I am angry at mum for not confronting her fears and realizing she was dying. We avoided discussing anything to do with her impending death. I spent 4 months taking care of her, and we didn't talk. I'd take her to her radiation and chemo treatments every day, she'd come home and sleep. She didn't get diagnosed until she was too far gone. I tried talking, we had some unresolved issues, but we never talked enough. I tried to help her, bring friends and family over, but in our family discussing this type of thing was taboo. It's none of anyone's business, yet she KNEW she was dying. I am angry at her and myself, I wasn't there when she did die, she was alone in that hospital room. I understand where you are coming from and it is natural to feel this way. I'm sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for you loss and you had to go through this. I too have been very angry at my husband, he passed away 4 days after his birthday, for not taking care of himself. He has been a diabetic since he was 16, was a musician, more booze and drugs and then we moved to vegas, more booze, drugs and gambling. A little snort put him in the hospital with a heart attack 2 days after new years, and then after his triple by pass, the diabetes took it's toll. You cannot stop anyone from doing with that want with their lives. I don't believe that my husband gave up on life,he wanted to live, but diabetes took it's toll. Please don't be upset. Take it easy ok. Be kind to yourself. My prayers are with you.