You are not going crazy. It's very hard to focus at this time. At work, I'll be walking towards somethings and completely forget what I got up to do. It's hard to slow down, but it might help if you stop, take a deep breath and let things catch up to you. Either that, or contact me and I'll give you a cyber hug!

Paula: I think this is normal. I took a workshop once about personal change and transformation and the instructor talked about "becoming undone." What you describe is this phase where all systems seem to break down and things just fall about. And then eventually all the systems are transformed into new systems and new ways of being. I believe it is actually a positive sign. I have experienced the same type of things recently with the death of my husband.
It will get better.

Warmly, Laureen

you're not going crazy. after my mom passed i forgot how to do even the simplest things. i would walk from one end of the house to the other and not remember why or what i was going there for. hell, i still do it!

That is so normal. I am forgetting all sorts of things and even forgetting stuff people tell me. It's all the stress and sadness.

I work in a kitchen and go to the store room to get something, and just stop and completely forget what i came to get. Back tracing doesn't help, the thought is gone! I am with you on your loss of function. Hang in there:)

Oh!!! I forgot... I did 3 loads of laundry and forgot to add soap the week my dad died. My whole family laughed. I felt i was losing my mind, but your not. Its jsut trying to catch up with you from all the trama. Your mind has and is going through major trama. Its ok to go a little crazy, even though we know your not.

Thank you all very much. Its nice to know that I am not the only one. :-).
((((((((((((((HUGS TO ALL))))))))))))))))))
Paula

Paula-I know exactly how you feel! I forget the simplest things...
I walk out of the house without my car keys. I stop in the middle of the sentence and forget what I was saying. I have to write lists in the morning or the night before so I don't forget the things I have to do the next day. The whole month of february I had to be reminded to eat. In march I would set an alarm so I would know when I had to leave the house for therapy.
I think our brains are on overload. We've gone through such trauma and we can't do everything at once. I don't think we're crazy, there are just crazy circumstances going on in our lives...

Paula dear, after losing anyone close in our circle of family, we can become very absent minded. Focusing on the loss, you are grieving, it's normal to be forgetfull, I hope that you can find some peace in the fact that your dad is not gone, but living in his spirit which we all return home to after death.

I think it might be closer to crazy (denial) if you weren't having those problems! It's hard because I think things are tough enough without me having one brain fart after another but we can't help it! Thats' why people say "Take it easier on yourself". Forgive yourself those moments, try to see if there is a pattern (keys? agenda? where your purse is?) and come up with reminders (like the one member who sets her alarm to remind her about appointments). I'm using all kinds of reminders all over the place - right down to a note reminding me to get gas that I taped to the steering wheel when I remembered I had to do that in the morning!