
Bereavement Support Group
Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? Whether you lost someone recently or it's been years, grief and its accompanying emotions can be complicated to cope with. Join our online support group to connect with a supportive group of people who really know how you feel. Help is right here.

deleted_user
I put this is the bereavement community because my dad and I are dealing with the loss of mom. Now I am just caregiving for my dad instead of mom and dad.
Every Weds dad and I go do his shopping and banking. I was at one teller and he was at another. I overhead some confusion over by dad's teller so I went over there when I was finished.
Long story short. Dad was trying to take out $400 for tithe money. This would have left him $150 for the rest of November.
I tried to talk to my dad and explain that I respect his belief in tithing but I felt he could make monthly payments. Apparently he got behind in his tithing because he wasn't allowed to tithe in the home he lived in previously.
Dad quoted something out of Malachi (?) that if he didn't tithe trouble would come his way.
I went to the bank and put a limit on what he could take out of the bank at a time. So far he has been outsmarting me every step pf the way (see journal entry). I am sure he will just go to the bank daily until he makes it up.
Then I guess I will have to put a hold on his money period. I don't want to do that unless it is absolutely necessary.
Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Something concrete out of the Bible that I can give him to let him know a payment plan is ok? He is on such a limited budget that I feel he shouldn't have to pay 10% but pay what he is able. But I need something more than just my comments "that the interpretation of the Bible is so varied".
Every Weds dad and I go do his shopping and banking. I was at one teller and he was at another. I overhead some confusion over by dad's teller so I went over there when I was finished.
Long story short. Dad was trying to take out $400 for tithe money. This would have left him $150 for the rest of November.
I tried to talk to my dad and explain that I respect his belief in tithing but I felt he could make monthly payments. Apparently he got behind in his tithing because he wasn't allowed to tithe in the home he lived in previously.
Dad quoted something out of Malachi (?) that if he didn't tithe trouble would come his way.
I went to the bank and put a limit on what he could take out of the bank at a time. So far he has been outsmarting me every step pf the way (see journal entry). I am sure he will just go to the bank daily until he makes it up.
Then I guess I will have to put a hold on his money period. I don't want to do that unless it is absolutely necessary.
Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Something concrete out of the Bible that I can give him to let him know a payment plan is ok? He is on such a limited budget that I feel he shouldn't have to pay 10% but pay what he is able. But I need something more than just my comments "that the interpretation of the Bible is so varied".
Posts You May Be Interested In
-
theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
-
I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Sorry, didn't mean to rant, but that's my opinion. You give what you can, what you want, not what they tell you.
True Christianity to me is a humble, charitable way of life, not a money making exercise.
Sorry if i offend anyone,
Tithing is an act of faith to help people in need. The Bible encourages us to help one another, to pull together as one to reach out to others. I can't find any specifics on amounts. It sounds as if your Dad has a faithful heart. Maybe you could encourage him to remember all his faithful years and the fact that God has been there to see it all. Malachi was also written before we were aware of the gift of grace from our Lord Jesus Christ. Jesus knows that your Dad is doing his best. Also, it sounds as if your Dad has been through some hardships himself. It is not as if he was trying to hide his income, he physicallhy couldn't make it to give his offering. Encourage him with the fact that God knows all and sees that he is making up for it. The New Testament is FULL of the Grace of God...Hope this helps, Lugia
Your dad, being elderly would probably not change his thinking no matter what you say to him, but even tithing your time, (such as in prayer, worship, counselling others counts.
God does not need our money, but wanted to teach us good stewardship in taking care of His people, our brothers and sisters.
Bless his heart, he is doing what Gods' word says, but God does not NEED our money, and your dad needs to make sure his needs are bing met. If he has money beyond that that he wants to give to the church, that's fine.
Rainbow
#1 & #2 WRONG! sorry, it's what God tells u, not 'they'.
#4 tithe ur time? what, ya think God will give u more time?
A tithe is 10% of your increase, increase get it?
on top of ur tithe there is offerings, that is decided by ur heart what u want to give. Than over & above these 2 things is First fruits, this is like a tithe on the increse u'd like to see in the oncoming year. Not 1 of these principles have been done away with anywhere in scripture. I put it to you that u have what u have because of the faithfulness of ur dad to tithe. Some would say 'can't afford' to tithe, I'd say can't afford not to tithe.
Think what u will, I have proved these principles time & time again, both through my giving, and through my lack of it. I know which I prefer....
Tithing is an acts of obedience to God and His commandment because in Deutronomy 28:1 "If you obey the Lord your God and faithfully keep all His commands that i am giving you today, God will make you greater than any other nation on earth" ( GNB)
God honors His word for those who honor Him as it can be seen in Malachi 3:10 "Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in Mine house, and prove Me now herewith, saith the Lord of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to recieve it".
Those who honor God with their first fruit are being protected from any trap of the devil(Psalms91;11-12). He gives the angels in charge of their lives and they live to fulfil the number of their days.
I believe your dad is showing gratitude unto God for all he has benefit from Him, so don't hinder him from Acknowledging the payment of his tithe.
He is doing the RIGHT thing because God is the one who gives him grace to get wealth so let him sow bountifully so he can reap bountifully (2 corinthians 9:6).He can only give his BEST offering and not just anything. God's nature does not change whether we tithe or give offering but it is a PRINCIPLE we have to HONOR.God bless you as you allow your dad to be himself and not manipulate him.
Scripture tells us to tithe to the church to support charity to others, not to "line the pockets of priests and pastors" as another replyer said. I tithe 10% weekly and know I'm following the Lord's leadership and meeting His commandment with approval.
Maybe you could support your Dad's desire to tithe and, explaining how bills are paid and what is left, discuss alternatives to 'backpaying' all at once. For instance, give his normal weekly or monthly tithe, plus $10 or $20 whatever he is able to afford, until he is 'caught up' if he feels the need. God is not looking down with anger and gonna knock him down or do some terrible voodoo just because he's not been able to tithe. God bless as you help your Dad. I, too, lost my Mom this year and am caring for Dad....paying bills, groceries, laundry...the whole nine yards, but thankfully share the responsibility with my sister.
Hope this helps and hang in there!