INVICTUS5 THE SEAT TO YOUR LEFT WAS NOT EMPTY,I'M SURE OR SHOULD I SAY I KNOW HE WAS THERE WITH YOU.THEY NEVER REALLY LEAVE THE ONES THEY LOVE.I'M SURE HE GOT A CHUCKLE OUT OF THE MOVIE AS WELL AS YOU BUYING HIM A TICKET WHEN IT WAS PROBABLY THINKING HE COULD GO FOR FREE!!!!!!!!!!! THAT WAS A GREAT IDEA PIXIE311

THE SEAT BESIDE YOU WAS NOT EMPTY I KNOW HE WAS THERE WITH YOU FOR THEY NEVER REALLY LEAVE THE ONES THEY LOVE.I'M SURE IT MAY HIM LAUGH WHEN YOU BOUGHT THE TICKET AND HE COULD HAVE GONE FOR FREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THAT WAS A GREAT IDEA.THEY LOVE TO BE REMEMBERED LIKE THAT.I'M SURE HE ENJOYED THE MOVIE. TAKE CARE PIXIE311

You're not losing it. I've done similar things since my fiance died. It's always bittersweet...I'd know how much he'd love things, exactly what he'd say and it'd make me smile, then I'd just crash down.

I can guarantee your boyfriend was right there with you, enjoying every minute of the movie. While it doesn't come close to having them alive, our loved ones are still with us and they can hear us and see us. I didn't used to think so...but now I know it's true.

Great big hugs to you.

You are one up on me. I haven't been able to go to the show. Just to much pain of being there with out my wife. You have great strength to do that. I feel he was with you there. That is why you didn't cry in the show. You just missed talking to him about it after words. Remember you can still talk to him He hears you. He may just answer in a different way. You just have to listen closely. Hang in there.
Gary

No, invictus - you're not losing it. I won't lie...as I read your post, I thought two things - (1) it wouldn't really help but also (2) as others said, he might just have been there. Only God knows what inspired you to do that.

You were trying to deal with your grief in some way you thought might help, it tugs at my heart what you did.

We all have personal motivations based on our loved ones. People talk about having "shrines" to their deceased. I think they mean leaving certain things a certain way - I don't know.

I have Mom's pic from my old bedroom now where my grandmom's pic was - flanked now by grandma and grandpa's pics, Mom's rosary from the Holy Land and her funeral prayer card in front of her pic. Just thinking of them in the other room has me breaking down as I type this.

You just did something to preserve a memory in hopes of something - almost anything - to bring a little piece of him back with you. You had a date - not with an empty seat - but with a LOVING MEMORY !

I think your date with an empty seat was a good idea. Eventually you would have had to go to a movie without him so now you have that milestone over with. I admire you for doing it because you had to know it would be hard. I've gotten groceries at Walmart and had the same reaction when I left. Now that's sad when shopping at Walmart is hard to do. My daughter was a picky eater so every aisle has one of her favorite foods, or I see a cd she would have liked. I have been going to different stores because of this but I'm sure it will be easier each time I do it. It's just part of the process of getting back to living.

Your not losing it at all honey, i did the exact same thing, he was right there next to you, laughing with you and holding your hand. just because you cant see him or touch him doesn't mean that he wasn't there. and when you were crying in the car he was there too, catching every tear. He is always with you. stay strong xxx