Bereavement - Teens Support Group

This community is focused on teens who have lost someone close to them. Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss, and while most people focus on the emotional response to loss, it can affect us behaviorally, physically, and even spiritually. This is a safe place to talk about how you're feeling and coping with grief, and to share experiences that have helped you through.

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A mate in need...

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I have a mate who lived in England, while she has been here in NZ her Nana, 3 cousins and jut yesterday her aunty, her mums sister, have died and she isnt coping welll at all, she and i missed 2 periods at school today coz she couldnt go home and was a mess, she wants to go to her auntys funeral but they cant afford to, her aunty was like a second mum to her.
i dont know how i can help her at this time. Any ideas?
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i dont no what to tell u but if u could try and get some people to give some money towards it and she could go to the funeral. all i no is she will need time to heal.
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wow. thats a lot. well the only thing u can reli do it just be there for her. nd if u can gather money.
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yh, if you can get soem money for her bui dont think that will be easy so do what i am going to do. have your owne funeral for them. i am doing that for a really near friend. that oudl help her.
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Thank you everyone for your helpfull advice, my mate is slowly getting over her loss, but still finds it hard at times.
We tried some of your ideas and they sorta worked, getting money to send her and her family over to england was merely impossible being at the age of 15, but we did ask her if she wanted to do something for her aunt and it was too painfull for her but it was the love from her friends that she needed to feel and thats what she got through us trying to help her so thanks again =)
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Maybe if its possible you could raise money for her, some sort of fundraiser so she can go to her aunt's funeral.
IF not, just tell her that your there for her and mean it.
Give her hugs and be with her when shes upset. Thats all you can do for her. The rest is up to her and time.

"Time heals all wounds"


-I'm here if you want to talk
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Yes some advice would be to keep close ,keep listening and keep caring.She also maybe go for grief conselling with all that on her plate.May be her parish minister or something.We are always here and there is help available if she gets to a really bad state ,but we want to keep her from going there.I am here if you need me.
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