Might want to reconsider the school. That and a neurologist/ child psychologist. Don't have any personal advise to give. Good luck.

My life, same way... What helped me, my animals and also I ate with the school psychologist or someone adult that I liked...Also, special ed classroom with others like me, we formed a family...Believe him. Also, get try to get a network or a couple kids who would like to hang out with him in and be his system, very important. Also, let him know he is not the only one who is made fun of, etc. that has an ASD..He can email me if he wants, as I have more than been there before. He can email me at herding123@aol.com or herding123@yahoo.com

Also, I have a website, chat1autism.wetpaint.com/ and I have stuff specifically about bullying etc. Please tell him he can vent and tell me whats going on. I would love to help because after dealing with it, and trying to kill myself, I want something good to come from it, and that would be stopping it from happening to someone who also has autism and I would love to talk with him. It breaks my heart... Also, sometimes you can come to the school and have lunch with him...If he's really upset but you feel like he still needs to go to school, get an aid ASAP..they make sure that the kids and the teachers behave.

Luv,
Kris

wow - that is some reply - I do hope it helps for you - lots of hope for you....Cathrynn X

Ten years old is a tough age. My 9 year old is hearing mean stuff, and he is pretty typical and popular. Listen to Kris, she is very wise for advice and solutions. What she said about getting an understanding psychologist and frieds is the key, from my perstective. Good luck!

Claire I don't know what statr eyou are in but you need to immedaitly reconvene your IEP TEAM and demand something be done.
Get an advocate or call some of the agencies in your state that deal with autism.
I worked at an autism agency for 13 years and have a son with autism too. I have heard your story before.
You need to start fighting hard for your son. DOn't let these people torture him and get away with it.
I know because I have been there done that!

You can consider:
1) An IEP change for a different class environment, maybe to a different classroom or different teacher
2) Home schooling?
3) Therapy/ counseling
4) Antidepressant medication if prescribed by a doctor
5) Getting him into a positive social group after school that he likes, such as a chess club or therapeutic horseback riding or Boys & Girls Club, or any other similar club
6) County mental health services, through the IEP, called "wraparound services", where he could get counseling in your home a couple of days a week, for emotional support. They could even come in the mornings to help him get off to school!
7) Help from your Regional Center, also to help him get off to school.

Hi thanks to you all, I am in touch with a local support group and our regional autistis society.
I re-emailed an inclusion worker who has contacts and she has called a multi-agency meeting, to see the way forward. I cannot bear the thought of sending back into the school who according to themselves do everything possible for my son and dont need any more advice. We have 8 months left till hopefully he attends the seconday school we have chosen. Once he's there he will receive the education in which he will flourish. Another thing is Im waiting for a decision from the local authority to award him a "statement of educational needs" so if he does not get that I have another fight on my hands!

Thanks to Kris I will get him to contact you later if thats ok thanks so much it means alot to me xx

sorry Kris your female, ! I was thinking about my son sorry again! x

Hi Claire! Of course your son can contact me...If it would help him even for a minute, that would be wonderful...def. tell him about me and he can email his heart out to me. I'm here to help :)

Luv,
Kris

Please attend the ADL Center chat as we have a professional eduactional advocate that may be able to help you. Our site here on DS is called Activities for Daily Living Center, just type it in the search box here on ds, or look it up in groups...I so hope to see you in chat, we can help you help your son- or try our damn best!

i would think that there has to be something you can get done at the school for him. not sure how things work in ur country, anyone out there know the ropes where claire lives? i would also seriously think about getting him therapy, suicide is s serious thought and should not be ignored, i hope things work out, please keep us posted.

Time to get him into the doc asap.
Unless u already have, no one should ever feel that way especially our kids..
My son is 11 starting the puberty and that is changing everything!
let us know what happeneds.
Far as the school?
Time for a change and allot more esp if teachers are allowing this to go on in the class... illegal..
HUGS

This breaks my heart. I understand your son is upset and has every right to be. I know you will work this out with the school and your support teams. One thing I didn't hear you say was if your told your son that suicide is not the answer. I am sure your probably have but make sure you explain to him it is a permanent thing. Even at 10 I think kids say things for the shock value and don't always understand what it means. My daughter is 10 and not autistic and I don't know if she truly knows what suicide is. She does have an eye condition which keeps her from doing things the other kids can do. So she gets teased and talked about because she is different. I have explained to her that this is who she is. This is how God made her and wanted her to be. She may not like it all the time. Daddy and I don't like it either, but we have made a huge effort to get her to except herself and hurt limitations. If others don't understand that is there problem not hers. Once we had that talk it really helped her self esteem. When she started to ignore the comments of others, the comments became less and less. Good Luck to you and your family. You all are in my prayers.

Hi, My son is 10 and yes is going thru puberty ( I think). I'm very, very concerned about the suicide threat!! How do you know when it's a threat and when he will carry through with it. I would call the Dr. A.S.A.P. I wouldn't want to chance something like your sons lifes I'd rather see my son in a hospital than visit his grave. Please take his cries seriously NOW!!!

Please take these threats, comments, etc. SERIOUSLY! Get him into a psyc. and get some counseling going ASAP! Is he on any new med's? Has there been any changes recently? What type of classroom setting is he in? Awwwwwww hun......I have so many questions......but right now......he needs help! I would not take this lighty.....and we had a lil 9 yr old boy at a school I worked at in 2004 actually make a suicide attempt....he tied his shoe laces onto the closet hanger....and around his neck......right there...in the class! He was a child who had been in my son's room for over 4 years.....they moved him into another LRE and he needed to be closely monitored.....and it took me documenting this.....to get him back in the right enviornment! PLEASE.....GET HIM HELP NOW! Hugs hun....this is a very heartbreaking experience......just wish we mommas could take all their fears and pain away and make it all better......