Yes I was sent to Psychiatrist at 20 and he said you are fine. 30 years later go after breakdown and its oh you have BPII Aspergers Dispraxia Dislexia Abuse Personality Problems Chiari Malformation GAD Oppositional Disorder etc LOL But bit late to do much save Med. Dont believe what they say and check everything DTA was my motto as lawyer ie Dont Trust Anybody Paranoia not really

i think i would have requested her to be replaced as soon as possible for the students she is withs on mental safety. if she said that to you i wonder what she says, or insinuates to the kids that sees her. how inconsiderate of her, she is not a professional. i am gonna go ahead and say it, i think that anyone that can read a book and pass a test is getting degress in professions that they have no business in. the system is breaking down, i see it all of the time, doctors that have no business being doctors, nurses that have no business being nurses, and therapists that have no business being therapists, the things i have seen out of so called professionals while dealing with both of my parents in different emergency situations has shown me that too many people are being handed degrees because they can read and memorize. ok i will get off my soap box!

I couldn't agree more!! I had my sons PT tell me that Brett was delayed and it was not good enough for her. No shit he is delayed that is why he is in the program anyway. I also told her that he has come soooo far and that I was proud of him with the progress he has made. People just don't get it. Unless you are in this situation they don't get it. I completely understand what you are saying. Good luck, chin up and stay strong! Denise

I know it is super hard, but you can't let these comments get to you. Focus on your child and his accomplishments, and that's it. I have felt the way that you do before. Whenever I go to my son's school I get the feeling that he is the lowest-functioning one in his class. I always leave depressed. Sometimes, it is not what teachers say, but what they don't say! I have learned to take their advice with a grain of salt. I mean, he is in an autistic class in the first place. What do you expext him to do, explain the laws of thermodynamics? I think educators are pushed to make all their kids "normal" at whatever cost. This is sad.

In our situation here I have nothing good to say about the school speech therapist. I am going to carry a voice recorder with every meeting with her from now on. THEY ARE CLULESS and their goal is to NOT SERVICE. but we need to prove it.
I think Oliver raises his voice because he is doing what I do; I confess in my case there is a bit of validity there.

If someone tells me their child has social issues, then I would suggest they have him evaluated for ASD. Don't take it personally! She is just wrapped up in her own issues, and that is the essence of unprofessionalism, and you just need to get service for your child, not lip service and not be her sounding board, although she may turn out to be your friend in ARD/IEP meetings being she has compassion if her son is ASD. Tell her to get an evaluation and to get good behavion intervention from a professional in that field, because speech is her specialty. That will help her and you will be empowered with knowledge and they will not try to act like they can manipulate you.

I do love my son's Aide at school, but what is pathetic is that the school considers that particular aide "the schools' resident Autism expert" - not the teacher, not the core resource teacher, but the Aide. Which illustrated how unprepared the school boards are. And more of these kids will be flooding into the school system soon , and they are totally unprepared.

challenger: you are right, and they better get prepared, because it is going to hit them hard and fast!

I feel so blessed with the professionals Ive dealt with.
Ive only had trouble with 2. An MD, not our regular one, who blew off my concern that my 1 yo was not answering to his name. She also though I needed parenting classes because, at 2, he had a tendency to run off w/o his harness. And an OT who said DS could be autistic because he wouldnt line blocks up.
With this small exception, the teachers, aides, coordinators, evaluators & doctors have all been wonderful.

If you have read my posts then you know my opinion on this!!! With the schools anyway..........I'm lost also..........how can these imbeciles get away with it???????
I have no strength to fight this whether that be staying calm or screaming like a banshee.............i'm wiped and just want it all to stop

The speech therapist may have kept her comments about her own child to herself, but comparing my son to "normies" is the one way I have of keeping up with just where we've been and where we are going. Just a different point of view.

I don't wanna imply that I ever think my son will be "typical" for his age, but I do hope and pray that every single bit of therapy we do will help him to catch up somewhat in his life.

I have found alot of the professionals we've dealt with in the school to be very helpful. Certainly NOT all of them and certainly I've had to raise hell more than once. But, overall, I do think they wanna help my son. . . for which I am grateful for that!!!

I have fought with some insensitive principals (who thought they knew everything about my child, when they did not have a clue) and a few others but mostly everyone is trying their best to help Kristopher.

Also, please remember that depression is hard to deal with so if you need to see a professional for it (I can speak from experience because I'm the biggest damn crybaby that ever lived!!!) then do so. When I started on Prozac it was like I got my life back. I no longer cry at the drop of a hat and things people say to me don't get me all riled and excited and it all is possible because of my anti-depressants.

It's not that I'm not immune to what people say about my son. I'm certainly NOT!!! But, I can handle these comments better than without the medication.

I strongly encourage you to see your pcp because this is your mental health that is at stake here and Lord only knows, we have so much stress dealing with our kiddos and the school and the services that we need all the help we can get.

hugs,

gaylek11

I always listened to advice given, but performed what I've always known. Treat him and do what I always have since day 1

yeah I feel you, there's nothing worse than a "professional" who tries to tell you what you're not doing or should be doing. It's obvious enough to YOU what's going on with your son day to day without someont trying to point it out to toot their own horn. It's not gonna be easy, but ignorant people need education more than anyone else...if you can, use that as an opportunity to educate.

Im afraid of my sons education as well.He goes to preschool at a regular elementary school.Hes in a special ed class.He will go to kindergarden next year.The teachers suggested the first few days I stay at school with him.It was a good idea, because at snack time my son would lay on the floor under the table.I had to tell them his feet needed to touch the floor.Now they eat snacks in the classroom and my son doesnt go under the table.Food and speech go hand in hand.For these people to be as trained as well as they told me I was surprised.I think we the parents are definitely going to have to pick up most their slack.I just want to learn everything about teaching my son the best way.I really hope these teachers make progress.

Truly, though, each of our children are individuals and I think it was a treasure that they asked you, Julishere, to stay with your son. Often times I'm told I should NOT stay. Nobody knows my son better than I do and in the beginning it helps if I can teach them what are issues for MY child.

You go girlie!!! Good for you!!!

Hugs,

gaylek11