OMG have I had a time! The kids have been in school since August 24th. As most of you know, my son has a moderate case of Autism and ADHD, last school yr at his special needs pre school they told me he would not need any sort of special needs care this year in kindergarten, which in any case I knew they were dead wrong and I was one ticked off moma. So when school started I was very nervous and scared, but I gave it a few weeks, and I let it ride, thinking the teacher would contact me if something went wrong. He is 5, moderate autism, ADHD, and in a class room of 22 kids with a regualar ed teach and aid. HA HA they will soon learn this moma though, and this moma is CORRECT as first thought last year at the end of the school year. Only as I let the first few weeks of school ride out hoping he might prove me wrong, I heard nothing from the teacher and a lil' piece of me though maybe okay he is proving me wrong, but another piece of me was worried. I heard lil' things come out of his mouth like "my teachers mean and nasty" and I thought, okay shes had to say a few things to him maybe. I got no notes, no phone calls etc... Then a lil' over a week ago daniel brings home one of his class room assigments and it has a note at the top of it that says he does not follow diretions, does not pay attention, please have him complete this at home. Naturally my mom-ness kicked in. And I went up a wall that I have just begun to climb. Everything I knew was going to happen before it even ever happened has come into play. So I sent in a note to his teacher and HAD to set up a phone meeting with her myself, out of my concern, not hers, to find out what is going on with my son at school. He's been acting out in class, gets mad when told what to do, wont follow directions, and isnt making any effort to learn, his attention span is not like that of other children his age, he's anti-social, sticks his tounge out at the teachers and has even hit the teachers. Well I could have told them all of this was going to happened before it even happened. But no one wanted to listened to me and said he would be fine in a normal ed class this year. The teacher also tried to tell me she had the school psychiatrist come in and do a full pshy eval on my son. didnt borther to explain to me what was really going on. I didnt fly off the handle but I knew she couldnt legally do that without my permission, so the next day I called the school and talkes with the ast. principal and requested a copy for this evaulation to where I was told by the ast p. that they were doing informal observation of him and unless i sign paper work saying they can do an evaluation on him they cant do anything. The teacher hadn't explained anything to me at all. So its needless to say I'm pretty peeved that the teacher A. didnt contact me at all to tell me how my son was doing, or to express any concern about what he was doing in class or what we could do together to help him and B. because she didnt explain what the school psychiatrist is doing in the class room. I've had a few conversations with the ast prinicapl on the phone now, and as of right now I have a meeting set up with her next friday to discuss what Can be done for my son. And to top all of he's had behaviors on the bus, first a warning and then kicked off for 5 days. My older daughter tells me that the older kids have picked on him and I believe her she wouldnt lie to me about it. and the fact is these older kids live in our neighborhood and know he is easily adgitated and an easy target so they pick on him which has now gotten him kicked of the bus. the prinipal has reviewed the viedo tapes from the bus. now it has been approved for him to ride the special ed buses, but now I have to figuare out how to get him to and from school for the next 5 days without losing my job. I'm stressed beyong belief, I don't know where to begin and end anymore, and I need any advice and help I can get for anyone here at this point. He has a specialist apt on the 26th of this mouth, so at this point I'm journaling his behaviors with the teacher, keeping his slips from the bus driver, and the school, and making the school write down everything they are going to do to help him so it will be legal and binding. Whatelse can I do to get him out of this bind the school system has put him in?!
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