If your husband does not know much about it, give him more information. And be careful he does not express that attitdue around your son because it could hurt him a lot. Maybe take your husband on doctor appointments or have others talk to them who know about it. I wish I could help more.

You are in quite a predicament. Is there a reason for him getting so upset, that he needs to be pushy. Does the school understand special needs. Many times the teacher is provoking the issue without being aware of it. How about a different palcement that he can be more comfortable? Did you talk to a behaviorist or his other people. How do he do at the floortime sessions? Can they give you some feedback, or ask your ECI people to refer you to more help or another school. When Oliver turned 2 1/2 he refused to go to school, and he knew what was right! Good luck!

Hi
ya keep him in school and they teach him.
Your child is a litte young to have an "attitude problem"
he has autism.
I can relate to how u feel, because my husband was not on board at the time.
I just focused and helped my son dispite anything his own dad or any one said.
He needs to be in school to learn.
Good Luck
I hope he is in a eairly intervention class??

Your husband does need more education on autism. It's not attitude, it may be frustration or something bothering your son at school.
I personally pulled my two autistic kids out of school and (this is my own personal experience, I'm not saying do this) they are thriving...emotionally, academically and socially.
I will never regret my decision.
Is he in an autistic self-contained class room? Is the work too complex for him to understand the steps?
I'd conference with teacher and get to the bottom of this, you know your son best. Get some ideas of things you do at home when he gets upset to calm him that they may be able to try at school.
I'm sorry you don't have the support from your husband, he's probably in denial. Education is needed there.
Best wishes,
SusanNC

Because I have always been there for my children/grandchildren my husband just sort of goes along until there is a problem. However, some time ago we decided that we needed him to be more understanding of the issues. So, I signed us up for several seminars (at the school's expense) and we both went.

It did a great deal in helping my husband to understand that Kristopher truly has a problem.

We still struggle with the fact that hubby has little to no patience when Kris is being argumentative or does NOT respond to requests or orders. But, he is learning and is alot more understanding than he was initially when he was most definitely IN DENIAL!!!

I could NOT sit in denial!!! I had a child to help!!!

Well, anyway, that's what we've done and I also had my husband at home when we used to go through the in home behavior folks came so that he could see what they were doing with Kristopher. Just hearing somebody BESIDES ME say that Kris does this or that because . . . and that it's typical behavior for kids on the spectrum made it more believeable than when Dr. Mom said it.

Just for what it's worth!!!

hugs,

gaylek11