Jordan was the same! When he was 6 his favourite colour was pink, his favourite toy was a doll. He had very few "friends" and they were a pretty even mix of boys and girls, but he never played 'boy' games. Never liked toy cars and trucks.
He still spends a lot of time with girls at 13, mostly because 13 year old boys tend to be rough and noisy which he hates. He does do more 'boyish' stuff though - computer games and roller blading etc. But he's not a classic 13 year old boy by any means!
It's just part of who he is. I don't have a problem with it, and I understand why he prefers girls.

stayhome, thanks for your input, i guess i just needed reassurance that this is something that he is doing because its who he is other then how he was treated for the first 5 yrs of his life. its a hard call considering his his background. thank you so much!

My son also has a classrrom of grilfriends. Like the FONZ, they grab his arms, 2 on each arm and bring him to the class line up. He loves it! Should see the smile on his face! Girls are more intuitive, understanding, nurturing, patient etc. My son often feels rejected by boys, because they are so impatient. If you don't pick up on their signals right away they move on. Also, DS has learned that wrestling is not considered acceptable, and that is the only way he knows how to "connect" with another boy. Ds is showing interest in watching boys play basketball, and I'm sure once he's up to snuff with those skills will try to play, after he's confident he won't be rejected again. I wouldn't worry too much.

heheheh challenger the foz there too huh? steven has girlfriends!!!! they adore him and treat him kind. The boys just dont care they pay no attention to steven really. who cares, long as he has friends i dont care if they are red green or blue :)

hey. sounds all too familiar. my son has been orientated towards girls all his life. boys he will just 'blank' them, ignore them really. Now, when he hit pubety, he started ignoring girls! then he got delective about who he would sassociate with, and worryingly, he often preferred much younger girls. this became a real concern for me, about his future and what if he continued in this way? i have had to teach him, over a long period of time, about the innapropriateness of this and the consequences in the real world about how he would be viewed and trwated if he acted on it. fortunately it seems to have sunk in, or he has naturally grown out of that phase, and now has an interest in girls that i still feel is annaprorpiate, what he calls 'pikey chavs' (you can look this up on the net! but its yuk, really not good and he is attracting alot of them lately. HELP!!!! but i do remeber there have been times when i have thought he was gay, or had some strange sexual interest in innapropriate people, but it does seem to be sorting itself out quite naturally, but there is always the worry in my mind and i am always watching for the next episode! i think it is part of their natural autistic way of developing relationships as best they can and, of course, girls are much more loving and sensitive than boys... so its not difficult to understand why they head that way!

My son also does alot better with little girls. I think it's because girls are more paitent and understanding than boys. Children can be cruel when it comes to kids that are "different" so it only makes sence that they gravitate towards those who are kinder to them. Dont worry too much about it.

Girls are often less confrontational, gender demanding. I liked girls and now prefer Women to men. Maybe cos hate football, sport, cars and boring crap.

My son tries to hug girls and smell their hair. Sometimes the girls dont like it and I would rather him not do it. He just needs some pressure on both shoulders push down firmly, and even on the head. I tried it at Mcdonalds and he didnt hug anybody. I felt a little weird doing it, but I feel even more weird when my son runs to girls and hugs them and they sometimes just push him away. I hope it works for you too.

Both my boys prefer girls too. Well I think that the girls are just a bit more compassionate than the boys. Anyway, I think its a good thing our boys are all so handsome what girl wouldn't want to play with them right. Hugs Denise

My sons both gravitate to girls too, and the girls LOVE THEM!! Now since I am a single parent and they have older sisters, this may be why, I am not really sure. I can tell you they will play with each other. Noah and Chase are practically attached at the hip! They will play with some boys, but are VERY selective. I agree with what some other people have said, most girls just tend to be more patient and understanding. Also, for the record, they BOTH love hot pink, but are starting to gravitate toward purple and blue. I am really not worried about it though. They also play house with their sister, but I think it makes for a more nuturing adult. I am just grateful they play at all...

It sounds like he's having a gender identity problem, which is not uncommon with young kids, especially the boys, who have Autism.

Kris

when i was a kid i would only play with boys, which brings up kind of an odd question - why is society so much more comfortable with girls playing with boys and playing boys games than boys playing with girls and doing girls things?

i am leaning toward herdings idea due to adam was treated like a girl until about a yr ago. only had girl toys, girl movies, ect. the only boy things he had was clothing. it is sad but true, i dont really care if he plays with boys or girls but i need to know what to do. if some of you rmember adam mastrubated many, and i mean many, times a day no matter where he was or who was there in front of him. took months to get him out of that. i worry about him not understanding that it is very bad to touch girls privates since he was allowed to mastrubate pretty much in public until i got here. it is a very sensitive topic i know but i dont want to see him get into trouble he may not understand or have another child traumatized by his actions. i dont know, being a worry wart i guess.

same with cameron. He does have an older sister but he prefers girls. And they love him to death. I think it has a lot to do with compassion. He does play with boy toys but he loves girl toys just as much and goes through his dressup as a princess times and watches strawberry shortcake. loves it. lol. im not worried. he feels loved and its fine by me. i think it will work itself out as he gets older

I read in a book about autism that autistic kids, because of their traits such as immaturity, tend to elicit a motherly reaction from girls as opposed to a predatory reaction from boys. Therefore, many autistic kids, boys and girls, prefer to hang out with girls because they will be more understanding and protective, rather than boys who are more likely to bully