
Autism / Autism Spectrum Support Group
Autism is classified as a neurodevelopmental disorder which manifests itself in markedly abnormal social interaction, communication ability, patterns of interests, and patterns of behavior. Although the specific etiology of autism is unknown, many researchers suspect that autism results from genetically mediated vulnerabilities to environmental triggers.

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just a few things on my mind..
when we say "my child is autisic." that doesnt sound right, how about. "my child has autism'
because my son is a child with autism
not my son is autisic and a child.
make sense? Itd be like saying
Im a menopausel? women. thats all i am? a women w. menopause? No.. im more than that,
So our child are more than children w.autism.
Just a play on words. i learned that one last year.
if our kids have a cold. we dont say Oh my cold son. we say our kids have a cold. see? there much more than a cold kid. ((HUG))
my son turned 11 yesterday, he still has his little guy behaviors, silly things that it would ok for a 3 year old to do. But not so accepting for an 11 yr old to do.
Its hard, its been so hard. i read the post of all of us and we try so hard.
i think ur all wonderful everyone one of you.
we have our beautiful angels and it makes life so worth while.
we are all blessed but not with our autisic children but "our children with autism."
when we say "my child is autisic." that doesnt sound right, how about. "my child has autism'
because my son is a child with autism
not my son is autisic and a child.
make sense? Itd be like saying
Im a menopausel? women. thats all i am? a women w. menopause? No.. im more than that,
So our child are more than children w.autism.
Just a play on words. i learned that one last year.
if our kids have a cold. we dont say Oh my cold son. we say our kids have a cold. see? there much more than a cold kid. ((HUG))
my son turned 11 yesterday, he still has his little guy behaviors, silly things that it would ok for a 3 year old to do. But not so accepting for an 11 yr old to do.
Its hard, its been so hard. i read the post of all of us and we try so hard.
i think ur all wonderful everyone one of you.
we have our beautiful angels and it makes life so worth while.
we are all blessed but not with our autisic children but "our children with autism."
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Hugs,
Kris :)
hugs!
I've thought about this for awhile too. I always tend to say my child with autism or my autistic son and I really hate it that I even put in the part about autism at all. He is NOT autism.
It'd be kinda like my children talking about me and saying my obese mother. How rude that would be.
I used to hate it when people would say their "adopted" child. My children are my children and they are all adopted. I am NOT their adoptive mom, I am their mom.
So, I do get where you are coming from.
I do find that telling people my son is autistic or my autistic son helps them to understand the significance of what I'm saying though.
For example, "my son refused to get up this morning" sounds like a 13 year old with a teenage attitude problem.
:My 13 year old autistic son refused to get up this morning" and it's like, "Oh, I see!"
I dunno. Maybe it's just me. I hate labels. But, I tend to do it alot when telling folks about Kristopher.
HELP!!!
I don't wanna label him and I don't want him to have low expectations either.
That brings me to something else that recently happened. One day I said to my oldest son that we were going to set up a trust fund to take care of Kristopher when we pass away. I said I didn't know if Kris would ever be able to make it in this world without financial help from us.
Well, Kris must've heard the conversation because I heard him say to me, "Well, I'm not ever leaving home, huh, mom. I will prolly never be able to make it on my own."
I was stunned that he had been listening and that he truly understand exactly what I was meaning. I felt like total crap. HOW DARE I make that precious child feel like he would never leave home. I NEVER intended to make him think that. It's just that the future is so iffy and I'm worried and want to provide. But, we were in my office and I had no idea that he was even listening.
But, the last thing I wanna do is make a statement that comes true just because my child has heard it come outta my mouth.
I did laugh, though, because he just got ear tubes. When he didn't have them in he was pretty hard of hearing so we have to be alot more careful of what we say when we "think" he isn't listening.
Thanks for letting me vent!
hugs,
gaylek11
You are also very right. Before the diagnosis we did not have as many services as we have today. And, it helps people to understand my son, where otherwise, they might not. Great point. I needed to hear it today, too.
hugs,
gaylek11
I do believe that is why I do "label" my son when I refer to him as my autistic son or my son who is autistic. I just wnat people to understand the reason he acts different from other people. Because you can't tell a child is autistic just by the way he "looks".
: ) Hugs,
gaylek11
We are here because our kids have a way of development that is recognized as a disability. We have kids on a spectrum so each one is unique and their needs are also unique. It is impossible to label anything accuratly, since many of our group state they have had many "labels" in just a few years. I like the reference "my child is on the spectrum" That is accurate and I feel apprepriate.