I think your older son was just joining in on the fun , this is typical for all kid's. I think it upset you, because it hurts to see that Issac does not play with/ like the other children. Don't beat yourself up! I can remember the five of us , as kid's locking each other out! And mom coming home asking us why we were outside! It was fun!!!!! We were mean lil shits! I miss picking at my brothers! Only had 1 sister, yeah we fought , but she and I stuck together because the boys stank and were gross, lol. So thinking back, I say this was unintentional and innocent, they really were just being boys, and Issac just so happened to be the one they were picking on. It just hurts us more because we know they have it hard enough as it is. I will say, my Alex , to this day, has NEVER been invited to a sleep over, has no friends, and never get's invited to any b-day parties. This still hurts me, and my nephews, well, they are 16 and 17 and are not intrested in hangin out with a 14 yr. old, who acts like a kinder. / 1st grader. I know it hurts, and now here ya are up all night critizing yourself about it, remember that you are human! And because our kiddo's have such an extreme amount of rejection from others and society, we just take it too heart a bit more. Hugs!!!!!

when i first got adam i knew one of the first things i would have to do is explain to my grandkids that he would not play with them, but he would play beside them. daizie is 6 yrs old, same age as adam and she asked alot of questions and really really wanted to understand him, and she does understand him. when they are together she does her thing and he does his, beside her. sometimes she can get him to interact with her but if he doesnt she just keeps playing beside him. my grandson has adhd in the worst kind of way and is very aggressive, adam avoids him, and deven is so hyper he doesnt even notice, lol.
darla is adams very best friend in the whole world! she is 3 yrs old and they interact like brother and sister. he adores her and she adores him. she comes and spends days on end with us so she can play with adam. she is the only child that he will actually play with, they color, they play games, they swing, they sing, they run, and the cutest thing they do is darla will grab adams hand and say " Adam, you are my best friend lets go play" and he says"o-tay Darla, best friend go play" and they go play for hours!
what i am getting at is maybe you should sit down with the kids in your extended family and explain to them that although your son does not interact with them like they do eachother, he stays close to them because that is how he plays, and they can invite him to play and one day he is going to surprise them and jump right in! it is always easier one on one i think. as for your other son, i agree with years of tears, your son meant no harm but i do understand how you felt. maybe you can all sit down and try to help the other kids understand that when your son is beside them, he is paying alot more attention then they think!

This is true. Thanks