we all have them. on every subject. myself, i dont have a clue about DAN, and ABA, and a lot of other things out there that may or may not help adam, all i know is the things people here on this site has taught me, as far as i know i am probably using a little of everything out there, lol. but hey, its working for him. there are some things that i do with him that some of you might consider wrong, and thats ok with me, its your opinion, and you are entitled to it, i have only let one person get to me here and that person has been on my ignore list since DS gave us the ignore option. in adams case, his biggest problem with autism was no dicipline, none, nada, when he said jump everyone asked how high. seriously. when he learned that he could get a spanking just like any other kid, he started LEARNING, its the way i was raised, the way i raised my kids, and its the only way i know to raise a child, with dicipline, i do understand that there are many, many things that adam can not help from doing, and you can rest asured he is not diciplined for it, but redirected and taught a different way to do certain things. what i am saying is its ok for us all to have different views and ways of handling our kids with autism, it really is ok. some kids with autism can learn that discipline is the result of bad behavior, if its not autism related bad behavior, some kids only know that they are being spanked, they dont make the connection. some kids respond well to DAN, others do not, some kids respond well with therapy, some do not. see, all our kids are different, just like us. i want to give you one example. adam is 100% potty trained, he can take care of toileting from start to finish, unless dad, nanny, or eggdonor is around, then he will have a bm in his pants...that is not autism, that is a child that knows that those are the people that will baby him and tell him its ok, no big deal, and clean him up and take care of it all while he just stands there limp like a rag doll, like he used to do. that is not autism, that is a 7 yr old being lazy because he knows they have no expectations of him. it is not ok for him to have a bm in his pants, not ever, not under any circumstances, why? because he knows when he needs to have one, he has no problems going potty when its just the two of us, i never have to ask him if he has to go, i never have to remind him, i never have to say anything, he just goes. when it is just the two of us, he never does that, he is great with toileting. but anyways, i just wanted to say, we all have opinions, i have mine, you have yours, and even if i dont agree, i will still listen, because that is how i have learned everything about autism so far, from all the different opinions in this group. to be honest there has many countless times that i disagreed (privately) with others opinions, just to learn later that the opinion was a great one and i have even used some of those opinions that i disagreed with and it helped, which makes me glad that we all have different opinions. hate to see anyone leave, really do, dont think its worth it, because we all truly do need eachother.
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