Yes I feel depressed about things too. Sean can speak and I still feel bad about things. Really, its just because we all have so much worry and more worry. You know, I think we parents are feeling bad because we know how things are supposed to be and are not. Not to say that we don't love our kids because I know that we all do and not to say that we don't accept our kids because we all do. What I mean is that we all thought things would be different for our children and ourselves. I know how you feel and what you are saying. Glad that we all have each other. Hugs Denise

yes...yes and yes.
steven had such a full fun day when it came dark and we were on our way to trick or treat, he crashed and burned on the way to our 1st house. So we didnt have to deal with it.
in the past people just are really nice, we usally go to peoples houses we know.
or the malls etc.
Did your son have fun?
Its hard i know..
how bout waiting in line for that Santa picture.
Gotta get there 1st thing.
I just make sure stevens having a good time and its all good. :)
So he didnt do the trick or trick thing, cuz he didnt want to, and thats OK!

My Noah did really well last year saying 'trick or treat', but I forgot to practice with him, so he didn't say it this time. He got a few stares when he didn't say anything. And, one older man had a porch swing, and Noah hopped right on it. He didn't say anything, thank goodness. I would take Noah to a few houses, then he would take a break and hang out in the van with his dad. Besides being autistic, he is spoiled. Therefore he doesn't feel like he should work for candy, lol! I think watching his siblings trick or treat helped him get the idea. Of course, the highlight of his night was afterwards, when he went to McDonalds and got his favorite-cheesy burger!

My sister is good about it, over the years she has came out her shell (shes 15). But still some things scare the ... out of her and goes into a fit. or she gets all worked up and stims the whole time.

but other than that, i love taken her out.

I used to feel bad. now I am the one that says trick or treat, and my son just grabs the candy out of thier hand! lol (he sometimes insists on putting it in his bucket himself)
and after going to about 20-30 houses (I watch him and can tell when he has had enough--though I think most of it is that he is just ready to have some candy!) we head back home....
and then for the rest of the night I get to hear him clear as day say 'trick or treat'
ROFL

Last year was the first year we went and he was 5. He didn't repeat the phrase at every house. We coached him and said it ourselves. It didn't phase people at all. We were proud that he walked and repeated the routine for over an hour. This year we didn't go. He didn't seem interested. But everytime the door-bell rang he giggled, ran to the bowl of loot, raided it and giggled and ran back to the livingroom. Trick or treating from his own stash! Lil' monkey!

Kristopher loves going trick or treating. It's a family tradition. However, now my worry is that he is 13. He may have the mentality of a 6 year old but people still see this 5'5" kid and think he should no longer be trick or treating. But, he really wanted to go with my granddaughters so I let him.

We've always filled in "trick or treat" if need be and that goes for my 2 year old granddaughter, who is perfectly normal.

My kids have always loved dressing up and pretending and having alot of fun. We enjoy it and it works for us.

But, I do worry about when the time will come that somebody says something because "he's too old" to be trick-or-treating. : (

Always worries.

Hugs,

gaylek11

Oliver stays home because he will not wear a costume. I see lots of BIG KIDS at my door, so I hope kris enjoys T&T next year and for many more to come. I would have a card to give to the treaters like a thank you please understand....Happy Halloween!
Oliver can say "trick or treat" because it is reinforced with candy! Go Figure. I enjoyed our Fright Fest with Oliver at home watching Spongebob. I remember my AS nephew was little and some kid gave him candy that he did not like, and then chased him saying "no thank you" to give it back. Seems reasonable to me!

Kristopher loves to go trick or treating and doesn't mind dressing up so long as I don't try to put makeup on him.

But, many years his costumes were his pj's. SpongeBob, Superman (this year & last year), pirate, pumpkin. All were pjs I bought and he wore them to bed on weekend nights as well as trick or treating.

Clothing has got to be so-so or he won't wear it. This year when he was Superman he wore wore his wind pants, his regular t-shirt with the superman emblem on the shirt and he let me "sew" his cape on. I tried pinning a cape on and he would have NONE of it. I tried putting a tie on it to tie around his neck. He HATED that idea. So, I sewed it on for the night. : )

Last year it was pj's and this year just a t-shirt with wind pants. But, Kris is still 'dressed up' . . . just not in a Halloween costume, per se.

: ) Be creative!!! : )

Hugs,

gaylek11

My brother always went with other kids - siblings or friends - so they just said it for him. No biggie. And there's seriously no need to be apologetic! People can think whatever they want. Focus on your child having fun!

I know how you feel, My daughter just walked and said nothing not really getting the concept, her older brother did the talking for her, I was not able to take her last year as she screamed when we approached other homes, this year I bought her a costume that was very heavy so she had the pressure, that made her comfortable. But yes feeling depressed this time year is normal for us all I think,