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Just a little Advice... Maybe??

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Well, ok most of you know me I am Denise and I have two boys on the spectrum. Brett is 4 and DXed PDD-NOS-mildly affected/hyperlexic/anxiety disorder and Sean is dxed ASD/HF. I went to the neuro today for Brett and he really is doing great. I am worried however for his severe anxiety issues and we are going to see a psychiatrist in May in regards to that. Possible meds? Maybe not sure, the neuro thinks that Brett's new ADD that we are noticing is coming from his severe anxiety. So that is that.
In regards to Seanny... I am having a really tough time with the potty stuff. Most of it my fault. I have been so easy on him mostly because of his diagnosis. I have let him watch to much TV because he loves it and there isn't to many things he loves and I love to see him smile. So really I am to blame. We go to a store and he sees a DVD and I want him happy so I get it for him. I have been wrong and I feel really bad about that. I just wanted to see him happy and make him smile.
So here comes my problem I have been really not hard on him with the potty stuff. Don't get me wrong I have tried everything to get him to go but he won't. Sean tells me he won't do it. I spoke with the Behaviorist and we are setting up a token reward system and Sean will now need to earn the TV. Sounds easy right? I think we will both have a hard time with this one. So tonight was day one and it was ok. Still Sean didn't poop on the toilet.
I need advice about this one, but I also want to share some advice to some parents that have a little one that won't do it but can. Don't let the diagnosis trick you into thinking that your little one gets a free ticket to ride. I have done this. I would say, "Sean will do it when he is ready". He won't I need to enforce this. I know this now, but want to spare some of you this. I would also say that, "We have bigger fish to fry". This is another way that I copped out. This is a huge fish and I was afraid to tackle it.
Sorry, I am feeling like real shit tonight and like I have been neglectful of Sean needing to use the potty. I should have tackled this sooner now he is 7 and I feel like if we don't get this soon I will be sorry. I can't have him doing this when he is older. What am I gonna do???? I guess I just feel like I did the wrong thing and am needing to say it allowed. I never thought I could cry over my son not doing poopy on the toilet. I used to think when Sean was a baby and there was no autism diagnosis that he would be trained by the time he was 2. Boy was I wrong.
Thats all. Hugs Denise
In regards to Seanny... I am having a really tough time with the potty stuff. Most of it my fault. I have been so easy on him mostly because of his diagnosis. I have let him watch to much TV because he loves it and there isn't to many things he loves and I love to see him smile. So really I am to blame. We go to a store and he sees a DVD and I want him happy so I get it for him. I have been wrong and I feel really bad about that. I just wanted to see him happy and make him smile.
So here comes my problem I have been really not hard on him with the potty stuff. Don't get me wrong I have tried everything to get him to go but he won't. Sean tells me he won't do it. I spoke with the Behaviorist and we are setting up a token reward system and Sean will now need to earn the TV. Sounds easy right? I think we will both have a hard time with this one. So tonight was day one and it was ok. Still Sean didn't poop on the toilet.
I need advice about this one, but I also want to share some advice to some parents that have a little one that won't do it but can. Don't let the diagnosis trick you into thinking that your little one gets a free ticket to ride. I have done this. I would say, "Sean will do it when he is ready". He won't I need to enforce this. I know this now, but want to spare some of you this. I would also say that, "We have bigger fish to fry". This is another way that I copped out. This is a huge fish and I was afraid to tackle it.
Sorry, I am feeling like real shit tonight and like I have been neglectful of Sean needing to use the potty. I should have tackled this sooner now he is 7 and I feel like if we don't get this soon I will be sorry. I can't have him doing this when he is older. What am I gonna do???? I guess I just feel like I did the wrong thing and am needing to say it allowed. I never thought I could cry over my son not doing poopy on the toilet. I used to think when Sean was a baby and there was no autism diagnosis that he would be trained by the time he was 2. Boy was I wrong.
Thats all. Hugs Denise
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I have a son, who is now 17 which gave a real hard time in poty trainning. We tried the reward system, didn't help much, We use to give him little mini cars when he would do something. Didn't get very far. We were on vacation in Wisc Dells he became constipated, and hadn't gone is 3 days. He started complainiing moving around funny, moaning, He didn't talk much. We took him to emergency room. Found out he had impacted bowel syndrom. He just started refusing to go in the diaper. We had to watch him real close for a while to make sure he tried. I sat him on the pody and started counting to get him to stay there. (Bad attention span, Concentration). We started at 10 to sit there, and gradually got to 20. He would complain and fight but we had to do it. There was really no choice. We finally made it. I think the kids like this are just to much in a hurry to get back to what they want. Try making a habit of setting him on the toilet for a specific time try to make them concentrate on what they are doing. I have had many years of autism complications. One thing I found out, to make them do something as a routine, you have to do it over, and over a lot more times than you would think it will take. My son still has problems, and I have to show him about 20 and keep pesistant before he might start doing it on his own. Good Luck
I hope this helps
Ok, well yesterday I made a token reward chart and a picture at the end of the chart of Sean watching TV as the reward. Yesterday was great Sean pooped on the toilet and then handed me his video to watch which I put on.
Today not as good, he refused to go. He sat on the toilet but wouldn't go. I kept putting him on and telling him poopy first then TV. He wanted to watch TV but I stood my ground. Later in the evening he pooped on the floor. Then asked me to clean the poop up and him!!!! LOL!!! So, he cleaned up the poop from the floor and I hand over hand made him clean himself up. He has been begging me to watch TV and I have stood my ground. First Poopy on the toilet then TV. So looks like no TV tonight. Wish me luck for tomorrow, I think I will need it!!!! Hugs Denise
and hang in there! one more thing, thank you for telling your story to help others, that was very considerate of you.
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