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Autism is classified as a neurodevelopmental disorder which manifests itself in markedly abnormal social interaction, communication ability, patterns of interests, and patterns of behavior. Although the specific etiology of autism is unknown, many researchers suspect that autism results from genetically mediated vulnerabilities to environmental triggers.

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I've HAD IT!

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I am so tired! Alex woke up hitting the walls, and I mean hard! He is just so hard to handle in the morning, again we rushed to the bus stop. I just don't get it! For 5 1/2 years he had to be at the bus stop at 5:45 am, as he was bused to a school 7 or so miles away. Now he dosen't have to be at the bus stop until 8:10 am! All this DRAMA IN THE MORNING IS KILLING ME! I am sitting here crying, Oh, yeah , he did manage to say" I hate you momma!" hurt like hell! Bad thing is i was shocked how clearly he said it! and at the same time the thought: "WOW! He said it with anger and he did not stutter!" Unusual? Normally, when he is upset and talks, he tends to stutter. These are the times I lean toward a live in provider! I don't even feel like going to class! I just can't stop crying! GOD , how hard it is! The older he gets, the more destructive, at least when he was small, it was toys, plants, houseware/ now it's the walls, taking the door off the hindges, slamming me around, etc. I guess I need to be honest here, I am becoming his victim once again! Parents' do ya know how it feels to be your child's victim? I don't have a boyfriend or husband hitting on me , it's my SON! How awful this feels! How much worse will he get? I'm sorry for rambling on, but I'm really in shock here and reality is kicking my ass as well. SOS...................
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i remember when my son was much younger, he would often approach me and without warning, headbutt me really hard. ouch. things like this seemed to stop when he hit puberty. he is actually very passive now (mind you, that could be the prozac!) sorry you feel so crap today, hope you can get it together a bit and carry on.... thinkin of you, grab your innerstrength by the neck and say"i need you"!
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Thank you Bubsmum, Alex is 14 and he is going through puberity , it is a nightmare! The doctor told me that changing his med's will not help, as a matter of fact it would do more harm than good, being that he is adjusted and all, he went off on me this morning and I didn't even have a chance to use the PRN med. that is for severe aggression. You are so right, I need to get my inner strength! I am strong! I am Alex's mother. I guess what really got me most was the thought of how much worse will this get? as he gets older and stronger?
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well, sometimes it is good that we cant see the future. its best not to think how will it be next year, or whatever, because we really do not know. but we do know that we can cope (just about) when we deal with the here and now, so get through today and you are doing well... i feel for you and am thinkin of you today x
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hi babe i know how you feel my little girl headbuts me and her dad sometimes but the thing you need to remember is you are not alone we are all here to help each other i was thinking earlier that i wish my lucy could talk to me i made me cry but i think whatever she says is a miracle in itself but the thing is i love her more for just being my lucy i hope that this helps you
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Im so sorry your having this time, what is it the weather and Puberity???? Stevens been off as well.... off as in aggressive and just awnry...
but better ... Maybe a live in would be a good idea... Or how about someone that comes in the morning gets him ready for school??
Then back in the afternoon after school and takes him to his activitys and such.
Id first off start with the mornings. That sounds like the extream need right now.
Do you have any idea why he is having a hard time in the morning. besides being tired etc, thats the million dollar question huh, if you knew its be better!
awwww heres a HUGGGGG and so much understanding!!!
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My 4 year old is so aggressive towards even one including me. It's really embassing because he bits and digs and when he bites he dont let go so 9 times out of ten there is a bruise. It's makes it even more tough for me because his father was phyically abusive towards me and he looks so much like his dad that it scares me. I dont want him to grow up and be like his dad and that is my worst fear. I get my strength from with in. I say he's 4 and he's going through a tough time to. If I get really desparate I take a time out for myself. I go in the bathroom just for a minute and breathe. And say I can do this calm down. The last thing I want to do is say something to my child that may effect the rest of his life. That's why it helps to have support groups like this so you realize your not alone.
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I am very sorry to hear about your difficulties, that sounds so hard! This may be a painful suggestion, but as he is getting older you may want to try to get a policeman, if you have a connection you could get to help, or some similar outside authority, to just talk to him about what will happen when he is an adult if he continues this behavior. I am an adult with high functioning autism and I have learned the hard way that as uncontrollable as it may feel sometimes, if I do break down in public or hurt myself, I will be kicked out of school and where I live, and I will end up on the streets. That is a hard fact, and will stay the same no matter how bad I feel I need to act out. It may help him to realize that as he grows older the implications of his behaviors change completely, and that he will be treated no differently than anyone else if he acts violently. I hope things get better for you both.
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I'm so sorry sweetie. God that must be so heart breaking and scary all in one and especially when it's coming from your baby :(.


I don't know what to say, I count my blessings and thank god everyday for my baby not being aggressive. When he's mad and in the middle of a tantrum at times he will come at me and just pinch or punch. Nothing threatening or scary though. He was never hurt himself but I remember years of when he wasn't talking and that frustration came out and he'd bite and kick and stuff and once his words came out that faded and he now uses his words. He cries and screams now as if I'm killing him and that worries me to death cause I fear my neighbors would call cops or CPS and take him away, I would die without him. But they've been good and understanding. It's in public where I lose it also and take it out verbally on the people whom are staring/commenting.
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