keep with the candy as a reward, my daughter bought my granddaughter a toilet seat that is much smaller, it fits over the toilet and gives her a sense of security. she always thinks she will fall in. get it at walmarts in the toddler section i think or maybe even hardware. the person that works in the toddler section should be able to tell you where to find them in the store. they also have your favorite characters on them and that may help too. with adam, i would sit in the bathroom with him and not let him up. if he tried to get up i reminded him that when he used the toilet like a big boy he got his candy. good luck!

ooer, the cold water sounds a bit harsh! maybe the toilet room will have to be a play room 4 a while?! so, he gets to spend alot of time on there(obviously, when you thinka poo is fairly imminent!) then, getting a reward for everytime he sits on there and 'waits for a poop' even if just for a few seconds, clapping and saying yeah, good boy, we are waiting for the poop!! ok, so bit over daramatic, but this kind of attitude works best i bet!!!! keep us posted, happy pooping!!!

me again, forgot to say, of course, big celebration when the poop comes!!!!! maybe favourite new toy or something?

The break thru we had was when we caught him just as he was going and rushed him to the toilet (kicking and screaming I might add) and held him down until he finished. Caught him a few times like that and now poo is at about 99% and pee we are still woring on. The signal is shorter than poo so by the time he decodes the pee signal coming in, he's already done it. Poo , no problem.

So Nathan has had a poop on the toilet a few times if I know he has to go and keep taking him. I know he can tell when he has to go but just seems to prefer to go in his underwear. Challenger, how many times did you have to 'catch' him going, take him until he finally decided he would be better off going on the toilet most of the time?

my son was averse to sitting on the toilet. He had no problem peeing standing up, but couldn't stand the sensory input of sitting. For two years (from four to six) he would excuse himself, go into the bathroom, put a pull up on, poop, and then ask for some assistance cleaning up. It was frustrating sometimes, but pretty funny in retrospect. One day, when he was ready, he simply said, "Okay, I'll do it now." sat down and did his business.

Yes, we did throw a party. :)

It took him a little longer to wipe efficiently. Our experience has always been that this stuff comes in time, and using aversives just hinders the process.

I used the Fox/Azrine approach. It is extreemly intense and uncomfortable for both you and him-but it worked. By the 3rd day. I swear, not one accident since. If you want to know how to do it, write me and I can write ya the details.

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its good he has some success he will get idea soon it sounds like. I do not think washing him off with a cold cloth is a good idea. Kinda harsh, for someone who doesnt understand the concept yet or has a sensory issue of doing a poop on the toliet. So ya have to think they way he thinks, it might be scarey to him, or feel very uncomfortable.
A distraction may help him,
toys books even a portable dvd player. (thats what worked for steven for pee on toliet.)
then praise praise and a poop party!!
when he goes in his pants, dont say anything to him, just clean him up in the bathroom put the poop in toliet have him see what your doing. Not alot of attention for poor behavior, tons of attention for doing the right thing :)

Sorry, been a while, uh we got him to go poo the first time in JK. And I think we worked on it for the year. Catching him on and off. He was never predictible. Not like my hubby, could set a clock by his BM's. But we were able to catch him enough times that by Sk. He seldom had a bm accident. Still might happen if he's overwhellmed sensorily and can't get his words out or if there is a teacher working with him that he doesn't know. OR if we are shopping and he feels it coming and tells us, but there is no bathroom in sight and we look and look and he just can't hold it any longer - but that is very rare.

I used the advice on here with stickers.. im telling you never underestimate the power of a sticker..lol.. i made a chart and everytime she went pee she got one sticker and poo was 2 stickers, pretty soon she was going all the time, its worth a shot if he likes stickers as well. If not the candy reward is another good one.. good luck!

we got my son to pee in the toilet by giving him potato chips, one at a time. One afternoon during this phase I was on an important phone call when I realized he'd allegedly peed ten times in twenty minutes (he'd run into the bathroom, wait a bit, then flush the toilet), and I was mindlessly handing him a chip each time. Got laughing so hard I couldn't speak. Don't remember what was so important about the phone call at the time, but I sure remember the crashing realization that I'd been had by my four year old!

Incentives are powerful motivators. Apparently, not only can they get an autistic child to whiz in the toilet, they can also teach him theory of mind!

I agree with Challenger, you have to catch him when he is geting ready to go, and get him to the bathroom! With my Noah, this is the only time he stood still for more than a few minutes, so it was easy to tell.