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Holding In Urine

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Well Sean has been holding in his urine for a very long time during the day. He wakes up around 6:00am dry and I put him in the bathroom like 4 times before he has to leave at 8:30am he will not pee for me. Well, I thought that he would go when he got to school. Today I found out at our conference that he was not urinating until 2:30pm and staying dry all day. He pees on the toilet in school at 2:30pm - had to say it again. That means that he is holding in his urine for like 18 1/2 hours. He pees on the toilet at 8:00pm before bed and then doesn't go again until 2:30pm. I don't even know what to say or do. The teacher today wrote me a note and said that she wouldn't give him snack until he went pee - Well he wouldn't go pee and so he got no snack. Now I don't agree with that either. Sean will battle until the end he really could give a shit about snack, but would rather win the battle. I wrote her tonight and suggested that I send in a couple of cans of coke and told her to use a little soda as a reward for peeing in the toilet but not to punish him with not giving him his snack. Anyway, any suggestions as to what I should do with my little guy? Thanks Denise
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Any chance it's a UTI? does he take Trazadone????? It has this effect as well as painful penial errection, usually not present with small doses, but sudden with a higher dose.

I could never use food as a punishment! How cruel! It is reccommended that all children have 3 meals and at least 2 snacks per day! She was not giving out candy, just a regular snack, hell no! I'm sick of these teachers' who work with the younger kido's, They just think they can do just what they want with our kids! So Denise, if he didn't pee for you at home, was able to go and tell his teacher you denied him snack, she would call CPS!!!!!!! This is just an example, believe me been through similar situations when he was smaller & could not talk. Alex holds his BM until he gets home, them he runs for r/r!!!! H e won't let anyone else help him wipe. So wonder how she feels to battle with a child , still lose, and know he had to watch others eat snack in front of him? How do some people lay their heads down at night??????
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I don't think food should be used as a punishment, but as a reward. I do it all the time. But, my Noah LOVES to eat, so it is a great motivator. When I prepare him something, I make him go pee, wash his hands, and other small things. Now, he does miss snack at school when he is agressive, and I don't blame his teachers one bit. I guess it just depends on the child. If they are not stimulated by eating, then it won't work.
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Ohhhhh That is LONG time! naybe he does have a UTI but if not how about offering him more fluids?
Her saying he could not have snack until he went the bathroom Nope not ok w. me either. if our kids do not have to go they dont have to go! We at least have them try and thats usally all it takes. I say fluids!
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Whats a UTI? He doesn't take trazadone. Denise
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i would rule out UTI (urinary tract infection) and possible kidney problems. tell the teacher she should never ever withold snakc from your son when he cant use the bathroom. be sure to take your little guy to dr, just to be safe make sure there is no bladder or kidney problems.
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Urinary Tract Infection

I agree stevensmom, you work as an aide, and I did prior as well, If we saw a child not urinating, we'd offer more fluids!!!!!! Denise, did she even ask you if he had been doing this during the holidays??? Alex just went back to school Mon. and was out all week, I know as mom & experience, we look at everything physical first, then enviromental,medications, .... a process of elimanation, he just started this, why would she autimatically assume it was behavior by choice related????
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Well, apparantly he hasn't just started this, he has been doing it since Sept. The thing was, was that she thought that he was doing pee pee at home in the morning and I was assuming that he was doing pee pee at school in the morning. He has been holding in his urine until 2:30 the entire school year!!! It's definately not a UTI! Sean has done this in the past in pre-school and we finaly broke him of it and now this weird behavior is back!! I guess it is some kind of controle issue, since his whole day is so controled? That is the only thing I can think of. Denise
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ok, but, holding his urine for that long everyday could lead to serious bladder and/or kidney problems. talk to dr about it, i tell ya if i want adam to peepee coke will do it every time! just make sure its caffiene free!
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Well, It must be behaviorial then, but isn't there another way to approach this? Surely the teacher can come up with a better plan to incourage him to pee, I mean so far, what she is trying is not working. Did you agree to the snack issue? and / or do you feel it's appropriate? I, and others may feel it is not, yet I am just wanting to know how you feel about it. afterall you are mom and know what works best for him. Coke will do the trick! But will the school allow coke? with all the new guidelines? Alex gets cokes at school, I buy them, yet he needs the caffiene it's a good natural stimulant and helps him focus, I also give him 1/2 cup of coffee in AM as well, been doing this for years and it makes a huge difference!
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No, I don't agree with her withholding snack and told her not to do that. I would rather her reward Sean for doing pee pee with soda or something along that line, not taking away snack. That was crazy. The school will allow the soda so that is what we will be trying. Thanks Denise
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OMG Denise, This is a hard one re I have a problem w/ mine peeing too much. When did you notice the change? I bet it's something he saw or something someone said? You should look a bit more at that teacher of his. Maybe she scared him not to pee too much, however she should'nt keep things from him. Well I hope your son has a dream of a water fall tonight.
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one more suggestion. Is someone willing to in w/him a pee first to show him it's ok or run cold water on his hand or on his tummy re when my nephew was in hospial ofter an operation he couldn't pee and the cold water thing worked..
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