Well I dont know if this will help.They basically will evaluate him at whatever level he is developing at.I strongly erge to use picture cards with him.You are his best advocate and you will from the evaluation, but you will soon become the teacher.Getting him to ask for things is the beginning.My son has no launguage, but will use pec cards and one sign.Its a long road but just staying on top of all the autism information will be best for your son.Dont be nervous.Just because your child will be delayed doesnt mean he cant catch up.Well Im not giving up.I am in hope that my 5 year old will begin talking and learn at his age level.Oatmeal is good to eat to calm your nerves, and I eat it about everyday.You are going to learn to where your son needs the most help thats all.Then you can get more connected to him and target one little thing at a time.

I was scared to death my first meeting. I let "them" tell me what was best for my son! But, Julishere is right ONLY YOU KNOW WHATS BEST.

Take a list of Goals you want to see your child achv, with in the IEP year!

First off, don't let them intimidate you. Your IEP will determine any and all the services and needs to be met, so this is very important, but do not let them rush you into signing, If you are in doubt contact one of us and ask before you sign. I sounds like the town you are in has some good options, from what you have told me before, but if they offer that to you is the issue, The first meeting should be about going over the evaluation

Sorry, I was attacked by my oli the computer geek. Anyway, Make sure you understand and agree with the evaluations and if not ask for re-evaluations. You should have the undivided attention of the principal and teachers in the meeting, so if they go in and out or multi-task, cry foul and get them to focus. Be sure you write all the agreed issues down and be sure the IEP includes them, otherwise the school is off the hook to provide it. I am going into the 5th ARD on Thursday because the last 4 with over 20 hours was not inclusive of every tiny need and the school people are not willing to provide sevice that is appropriate or a setting that is appropriate unless I have it written and then have it mandated. Hopefully you won't need to do that, but don't let them upset you if they do. I suggest you write down the strengths and weaknesses, and get you ECI people to help you, or even go with you. My case manager was willing to attend until he turned 3. The law states they need to have an IEP in place by the 3rd birthday, but my school didn't and it was a recognized violation. There are many other DS posts that are great info, so look in the past lines.

http://dailystrength.org/discussions/Autism_Autism_Spectrum/advice/859025

Here is one.
I sugggest you get a voice recorder and get the thing recorded.

I can tell you I just finished my son's first IEP and it lasted about 2 hours. I was glad that no one was rushed - I felt like my questions were answered but as others have said - make a list of things you want the school/specialists to work on with your son. You can easily get distracted by other information. It can be intimidating sitting at a table with 8 "experts" but remember - you know your son better than anyone. I told the staff they may be experts in their field but I am an expert with my son. Don't be afraid to ask questions. In my head I thought "my tax dollars are paying these people's salaries so it's kinda like they work for me." Just remember - everyone there wants to help your son. Just make sure everything gets put in writing but without you have no recourse. PS - my husband didn't go and I was alone. Stay strong and good luck. Let us know how it goes. Tina