Autism / Autism Spectrum Support Group
Autism is classified as a neurodevelopmental disorder which manifests itself in markedly abnormal social interaction, communication ability, patterns of interests, and patterns of behavior. Although the specific etiology of autism is unknown, many researchers suspect that autism results from genetically mediated vulnerabilities to environmental triggers.
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My 2 1/2 year old son and my 5 yr old daughter along with myself went to my sister's house for Thanksgiving. I got in a huge fight with my mom when I got back home and she returned home to Texas. She called to tell me she was very concerned about Paul's behavior and that he even scared her! (he almost hit her) Now, Paul is not the perfect child at all. He does growl at me, yell, and hit me and others at home. My mom is convinced he will end up in jail or will kill me when he is 15. Now, I know Paul is not perfect, but he is not the worst child by far. My mom said I never discipline him and let him get away with things I would never let my daughter get away with. She says I treat him different and should not. Last night, she called to talk to me and I ended up hanging up on her. I have no desire to even see my family at X-mas because I know they will find something to b**ch about! Even before Paul was born, they always had something to "suggest". You need to clean your house more, do not let Carolanne watch so much TV, why do you do it that way? It got worse after he was born and said to have special needs! Don't treat him different, put him in time-out, blah, blah, blah. I am never told what I am doing right only what I am doing wrong. Let them come and live with Paul 24/7 and see what it is like when he is out-of-control. Let them see him bang his head on the wall or door in time-out, take an hour to fall asleep, and wake up screaming uncontrollably at all hours of the early morning. Let them deal with this while working on getting a Master's degree, keeping the house functioning and my husband happy, and raising a 5 and 2 1/2 yr old. Then, they can tell me what they think, but not until then. I sent an e-mail last night saying I did not even want to come visit at Christmas and of course now no one is even talking to me. Do they know what it is like?? HELL NO!!!!! Sorry to vent, I just had to vent to someone else besides only my poor husband who is stuck in the thick of this. So, how do you all deal with family?
My 2 1/2 year old son and my 5 yr old daughter along with myself went to my sister's house for Thanksgiving. I got in a huge fight with my mom when I got back home and she returned home to Texas. She called to tell me she was very concerned about Paul's behavior and that he even scared her! (he almost hit her) Now, Paul is not the perfect child at all. He does growl at me, yell, and hit me and others at home. My mom is convinced he will end up in jail or will kill me when he is 15. Now, I know Paul is not perfect, but he is not the worst child by far. My mom said I never discipline him and let him get away with things I would never let my daughter get away with. She says I treat him different and should not. Last night, she called to talk to me and I ended up hanging up on her. I have no desire to even see my family at X-mas because I know they will find something to b**ch about! Even before Paul was born, they always had something to "suggest". You need to clean your house more, do not let Carolanne watch so much TV, why do you do it that way? It got worse after he was born and said to have special needs! Don't treat him different, put him in time-out, blah, blah, blah. I am never told what I am doing right only what I am doing wrong. Let them come and live with Paul 24/7 and see what it is like when he is out-of-control. Let them see him bang his head on the wall or door in time-out, take an hour to fall asleep, and wake up screaming uncontrollably at all hours of the early morning. Let them deal with this while working on getting a Master's degree, keeping the house functioning and my husband happy, and raising a 5 and 2 1/2 yr old. Then, they can tell me what they think, but not until then. I sent an e-mail last night saying I did not even want to come visit at Christmas and of course now no one is even talking to me. Do they know what it is like?? HELL NO!!!!! Sorry to vent, I just had to vent to someone else besides only my poor husband who is stuck in the thick of this. So, how do you all deal with family?
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lol! i dont do any better then you i guess! i would only suggest, and only because i can say i have been on both sides of the fence so to speak, that although we can not treat our special needs kids exactly like we do our kids that do not have special needs. we can teach them control, we just have to figure out how to teach it on their terms :) good luck with that! it took me a while to get adam under control and i do treat him like my grandkids, but in a way that he can comprehend. he gets time out in the corner, he gets favorite toys taken away if he throws them, ect. that was back in the spring, havent used the corner in a very long time or taken toys away either. he learned he had to be a 'good big boy'. all kids are different, you will figure it out. as for the family, tell them to bite you!
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LOL, I pretty much told them to bite me in may more words! I have done the time-out in his room and he destroys his room (throws clothes, rips the door). Today, I started taking his Thomas trains from him. I do want to teach him control but I really do not how to treat him excatly like I do my daughter.
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Oh well, mine told me I'd better make sure I have made arrangements for Alex, in case something should happen to me! I had a nervous break down in 2003 and my mom added to my grief, which pushed me way over the edge! I now have anxiety problems and just decided to not let them know anything, if they find out, they are the last ones to know!!The thing is, you don't have to explain your parenting styles TO A DAMN PERSON! YOU ARE MOM AND MOM RULES! Blow them off, it only takes away from you being able to cope and deal with your situation with your immediate family. It hurts, but my folks now know to shut up and stay out of it! Be strong and keep doing what works for your child.
sambod
my family basically ignores the problem. they ask me how sam is but they really don't get into it. I only see them once or twice a year. When Sam was first diagnosed, my mom would argue with me and tell me that there was nothing wrong with him. Two years ago, she came on her annual visit and said "you know, there may be something wrong with him" ya think??????
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Problems with my in-laws comes and goes. When my own family starts in I just nip it in the bud. Tell them "if you haven't anything nice to say...." and they usually shut up.
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i have a fridge magnet... it says..."friends are always welcome, family...strictly by appointment" think that sums up how i feel about this one! however, my son is nearly an adult now and so things have improved alot, the family have got used to how things work with us and know that i will take off and not return if people **** me off .
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Bubsmum, gotta an extra magnet? I would be willing to pay a small fortune for several! you made me laugh! and i needed that this morning has been hell for me! hugs!
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