Autism / Autism Spectrum Support Group
Autism is classified as a neurodevelopmental disorder which manifests itself in markedly abnormal social interaction, communication ability, patterns of interests, and patterns of behavior. Although the specific etiology of autism is unknown, many researchers suspect that autism results from genetically mediated vulnerabilities to environmental triggers.
hey everyone, just wanted to tell you that i made dad stay home from buddyball lastnight and adam did great. i had been working with him telling him all week that he needed to not stim so much (he stimmed the entire time the two times dad was there) and play ball. i stayed right with him the entire time and "coached him" every step of the way, what a workout! he did great! he bounced the ball to me and other kids, first time ever, he actually tried to shoot baskets, he ran from one end of the court to the other, first time ever, he needs alot more practice, but as long as he was told what he needed to do he did it HIS best and had FUN!
moral of the story, dont feel sorry for your kids, they know that you do and it affects their ability to participate in some things. In adam case, i think he knew dad was there and
1: if given the choice adam would take being babied by dad over breathing or anything else! (last time dad was there he went to coach adam and the only thing he did was kneel down and let adam hang on him while he babied him through the entire buddyball game)
2: i think he had no clue what to do and like with everything else needs 100% direction 100% of the time.
3: i think he also knows his dad feels sorry for him and has no expectations for him so maybe adams attitude is, he doesnt care why should i.
i know its hard, i see it every day with my husband, but its not helping our kids when someone feels sorry for them all the time. put all that emotion and energy into something positive, fun, and most of all, something that improves our kids life, no matter how small. the little things DO matter. make the most of them. and when you are feeling a bit overwhelmed with emotion about your childs limitations, dont let them know, tell them how great they are, because they truly are, and if you need time, take time to yourself and let it out. but please, dont feel sorry for your kids, they know that you do. hugs,
trudy
moral of the story, dont feel sorry for your kids, they know that you do and it affects their ability to participate in some things. In adam case, i think he knew dad was there and
1: if given the choice adam would take being babied by dad over breathing or anything else! (last time dad was there he went to coach adam and the only thing he did was kneel down and let adam hang on him while he babied him through the entire buddyball game)
2: i think he had no clue what to do and like with everything else needs 100% direction 100% of the time.
3: i think he also knows his dad feels sorry for him and has no expectations for him so maybe adams attitude is, he doesnt care why should i.
i know its hard, i see it every day with my husband, but its not helping our kids when someone feels sorry for them all the time. put all that emotion and energy into something positive, fun, and most of all, something that improves our kids life, no matter how small. the little things DO matter. make the most of them. and when you are feeling a bit overwhelmed with emotion about your childs limitations, dont let them know, tell them how great they are, because they truly are, and if you need time, take time to yourself and let it out. but please, dont feel sorry for your kids, they know that you do. hugs,
trudy
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Crying not being able to tell me what is wrong.
excalations to self injury and hurting me. Thoes are the most hurtful to the heart feelings i have ever experianced in my life. having your child in a clouded autism wave and not being able to reach to you for help. When you do try to help you get hit, bit, pushed name it.
Thats about it, i would never feel sorry to the point like what i think your saying, "oh he has autism he is disabled that means he is unable so i must do everything for him"
years ago when he was young, i did not know how to parent him. And i did do alot for him, now thru the years i learned that is not helping him grow. I still** have to back down and allow him the indepence. I think thats hard for all moms no matter the childs situation. Cutting the apron strings.
When Jordan was little he didn't realise he had a problem at all - everyone else had a problem! It's only since he was about 10 that he's understood that he is different in some way, but we've always emphasised DIFFERENT not WRONG OR DISABLED. It's so hard sometimes, but I do make Jordan do as much as I possibly can, even though I know its not always easy for him