My 8 yr old son's grandpa passed away (his fathers dad) and I am having a very hard time trying to decide if I should take him to the visitation and/or the funeral. They were not super close but still did things together every now and then. He does remember who his grandpa was and I did decide to tell him that he was sick and that sometimes doctors cannot fix them so they go and live with God. He took this well and said that he wants to see his dad and his grandpa...but here is my problem. I am not sure if he fully grasps the concept of death (actually I am fairly sure that he does not). Thinking from a parents point of view if this was my dad who had passed I would want him to be there, but he is not a normal child. He is fairly high functioning and has an enormus ability for understanding but death....I am not so sure. I have a hard time with death. I think that the closest we have come to death is a fish and I don't even think he noticed (or maybe it just did not affect him---or he didn't care because it was not his fish). Right now as it stands all he has are good memories of his grandpa and the knowledge that he is with God. I know that I cannot shelter him forever but is now the right time? Has anyone ever had to deal with this before? Please any opinions or information on this would help out greatly. Thank you in advance.
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