Autism / Autism Spectrum Support Group

Autism is classified as a neurodevelopmental disorder which manifests itself in markedly abnormal social interaction, communication ability, patterns of interests, and patterns of behavior. Although the specific etiology of autism is unknown, many researchers suspect that autism results from genetically mediated vulnerabilities to environmental triggers.

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How do I explain to the men I date about my son behaviors? I've been seeing this one guy for almosgt 6 months but we have known each other for 4 years and my son has known him to. But lately my son has been very aggressive with him and I dont know how to explain it to him. To be honest I dont know how to explain it to anyone. Can you help me all you single moms who have been through this?
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ok i am not a single mom but thought i might share some input ...you say you have known him for 4 years and dating him for 6 months well then just tell him he will understand specially if he wants to be with you give it a go you never know
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well i can tell you that i have known adams dad/my husband for 25 yrs. when we got together a yr ago he told me adam had autism and i researched the internet and tried to find out all that i could. i met adam and what i read did not prepare me for what i saw. after a couple i weeks i searched for support on the internet and found this group. it has given me the best insight i could have possible gotten. all the books and research info out there is nothing compared to talking to people that live it everyday. so if it were me i would do a lot of reading on DS discussions, and also ask specific questions here and tell him what you learn. or better yet, invite him to join. i for one would welcome him with open arms for taking on a child with autism. it will help him understand his behviors and how to deal with them by talking to ppl that deal with it everyday! i did it, took on a child with autism sight unseen, it has been tough but the people here have held my hand every step of the way and i know they will for you and your bf as well!
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When I first started dating my fiancee four years ago, I told him upfront. He had no clue about autism, and I explained it to him. I think honesty is the best policy because you want to make sure the right person is around your child. If he truly cares about you, he will stay and learn as much as he can.
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I'm properly the worst person to take advice from.

I'm a single mother and have been for all my sons upbringing.

For me?

I just started dating back oh about 2 yrs ago when my baby started talking. I gave up ALOT for my son. My social and dating life were shoved aside.

If I were in that situation, if he didn't like it and couldn't accept my child; I would leave. I have done it couple times, not cause my son is aggressive cause he isn't, but because it seemed as of they were distancing themselves from him and no man will ever disrespect my son
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